Should he not do overtime

[Hopelesslyn]

I’ve posted about my situation previously .
split from my boys dad . He sees them for one night / day every other week .
found out that last week when he had his night he went and did overtime at work (he works at the airport so normally does nights) his brother came and babysat.
Aibu that he should not do this as it’s meant to be his time with his kids? As he only has them once a fortnight?
or is this completely fine and I’m being overally sensitive ?

Most of us are struggling financially

If it's a one off where is the problem?

It's a two pronged thing really. You're right in that he shouldn't do OT when he's with his children as he should want to spend time with them. However, you have no jurisdiction over what happens on his time so as long as they're safe and being looked after there's not a lot you can do or say.

If OT is sparse and he really needs the money I might cut him some slack though. Bills have to be paid I guess.

If it was nights then the children were surely asleep anyway?

As a one off I'd say it was ok. It's not ideal obviously, but if they were short staffed and asked and he needed the money then I can't see a huge problem. He arranged suitable childcare. Does he want to see them more?

I think it's ok. Presumably he had most of the day with the kids and then was asked to work in the evening. The extra money is probably useful to him?

He only gets them at 12pm and then they are collected at 5pm the next day . He does endless amounts of overtime he’s always saying he’s tired because he’s been doing overtime .
I do all drop offs and pick ups as he doesn’t drive so he tells me not to bring them any earlier as he’s done overtime and needs sleep . He doesn’t want the kids more as he’s not willing to change his shift to have them and hasn’t for the last 7 years .

I don’t think you get to make that decision. They spend time with their uncle. They were looked after.

Where do they go when you go out or work?

But he would need to sleep when they are awake?

@Hopelesslyn
I understand your perspective, but money in the bank is food in the fridge

It's life. He clearly needs to earn to live....and presumably pay child support?

Doing all this overtime I assume he really needs the money. Does he at least pay you child support? It's a massive shame he doesn't see his kids more but unfortunately I don't know what you can do about that really.

I don’t do overtime and arrange my evenings out when they are at their dads .
i changed my work to work around the children schools / holidays . I use all my annual leave to look after them when they arnt at school . Maybe that’s why I don’t see why he can’t 1 evening out of 14 to not do overtime . I am just being sensitive so it seems I will keep my thoughts to myself .