My sister is getting married soon and I’m maid of honour, which I am really excited about. My toddler dd has asd and is also bridesmaid. The wedding is abroad in a town in the middle of nowhere and the venue isn’t really child friendly, there’s nothing for dd to do there. Most guests are going for about 5 days and there are lots of activities planned for the duration. However, none of the activities are suitable for my dd and I’m not sure what we’re going to be doing while we are there, my dd needs constant monitoring and will not sit down for meals or anything like that. We also have a DS who will be about 8 months by the time the wedding comes round.
I just feel like everyone else will be having an amazing holiday away but for my husband and I it will be a bit of a nightmare and we won’t be able to get involved in much of what the group are doing. I’ve mentioned to a couple of family members about my concerns but no one seems to get it, so maybe I am being unreasonable. I also want to do a really good job as maid of honour but have no idea how I’ll be able to focus on this. I also don’t want to put any downers on her big day.