Why is my baby doing this? Struggling so much

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Dd 9 months is waking every half hour but for no apparent reason. When I go in she is crying but eyes are closed, I give her the teddy back and she settles almost immediately (yes I know they are not supposed to have a teddy and I remove it when she’s asleep again).

She is definitely full and nappy changed etc.

I go back to work in 3 weeks and until now she has been pretty good with sleep. I can’t cope with this. Why is it happening and more importantly what do I do? Do I keep going in and re settling or do I leave her to cry longer? I don’t know how I will manage my job if this continues.

So you've set up a sleep cue for her of hugging a teddy. So when she comes into a light sleep and wakes brief briefly and she tries to resettle herself she will of course look to use the same setting mechanisms that you taught her to use. But you've taken it away so of course she can't. No wonder she cries. If you aren't happy to allow her to use the teddy every time you will need to work hard to add something to the settling routine, then when that is accepted work on gradually withdrawing the teddy.

Sadly completely normal, to manage expectations it is unlikely to be the last phase of this either. Almost certainly nothing you can really do other than wait it out. Co sleeping is a great option if you haven't done it already

Good luck it it hard

Developmental leap probably. My DS is like this every time, it's an exhausting phase that lasts around a fortnight.

Does she have a sleeping bag? Maybe she is cold?

Also could be teething so maybe try calpol.

Leave the teddy with her (unless it’s massive??) at 9 months she can get away from it if she needs to

Honestly my son would generally go back to sleep within 5 min. If it takes longer we check the baby monitor and go check on him after 10ish min if he is standing or sitting down. But if he is still lying down we wait as usually he's half asleep and will go down on his own quickly.

Leave the teddy, and give her a few minutes to settle before you go in

If that doesn't work it could be teeth /temperature / alignment of the moon with venus

But try leaving her the teddy first

Agree with this, I think after 6 months they are ok with something small so unless the teddy is huge I'd just leave it. She has become used to it to settle herself so of course she will keep waking and be unable to settle herself without it. Either that or work on removing it all together

My 8 month old has been doing this, it's brutal but I agree if you've got this far without Cosleeping I'd avoid. For us it started with the move into the nursery and ds realising he didn't like being away from us. He's also recently taken a bit nervous around strangers and is quite clingy. Teeth are bothering him and he's developing skills at a crazy rate. So when you consider all of that, it's no wonder their wee system is going haywire. I have no real solution as of yet. Things I find help are keeping the room really dark, white noise in the background, loud of time together during the day and anything that promotes decent day time napping including baby wearing. I have been playing around with his wake windows and stretching them a little further and feeding him a little later in the evening helps. It's tough going, you're not alone and it's stage that won't last forever. I do all the night stuff during mon-fri and dh takes over at weekends so I can sleep.