My partner has a hobby which takes up a lot of his time. A few times in the week after work and for several hours on Saturday. We have had disagreements in the past about it but he has explained how much this hobby means to him and that it won’t be forever. As much as it still bothers me, I have learnt to accept it and said to him that it’s fine but I want the same effort, I don’t want to keep feeling second best. I explained how I’d appreciate if we did things as a couple once in a while. Going out for a meal, a few drinks or the cinema etc. He said that’s absolutely ok and that he will start putting the effort in. We had this discussion 5 weeks ago and he still hasn’t arranged any plans for us. My parents and his are available to baby sit so we don’t struggle with childcare. I know I could plan things but I don’t see why I should. I genuinely feel close to ending things if he doesn’t change. Aibu to expect more effort from him and to end things if things don’t change?