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HelloGoodbye92 · 29/07/2023 09:02

Name change due to the nature of post. I’m convinced my neighbour is selling drugs. They are a couple with children, both go out to work etc but they constantly have people come to the door all evening and all weekend. Just for a minute or two at a time. This has meant that various people have came to out door by mistake and I’ve answered the door to someone wielding a hammer once and also a huge aggressive Rottweiler trying to bound in my home. I’m becoming increasingly uncomfortable with that aspect in particular and I don’t know what to do about the whole situation. I also have young kids at home and don’t like the thought of the house mistakenly becoming some sort of target because of the neighbours carry on.

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JaniceBattersby · 29/07/2023 09:03

Report them to the police?

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HelloGoodbye92 · 29/07/2023 09:07

I was thinking that but do I have enough reason to do you think?

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Spirallingdownwards · 29/07/2023 09:09

Or maybe they are having financial issues and selling off some things on fb marketplace?

Devilsmommy · 29/07/2023 09:13

I don't know what counts as enough but I'd definitely report to the police as they may already be aware of the situation but have no proof to be able to do something so maybe your report could change that. It's at least logged on system if ever there's a problem. Sorry can't be more help

Quicknamechange4this · 29/07/2023 09:14

Sounds exactly like it. This has happened to me. It will only get worse and next you will have people trying to break in as they mistakenly think you are next door.

I didn’t report it as I was too scared but fortunately one of the other neighbours did and they disappeared fairly quickly. I’m not sure if it was the police or the landlord but you need to do something.

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HelloGoodbye92 · 29/07/2023 09:15

Spirallingdownwards · 29/07/2023 09:09

Or maybe they are having financial issues and selling off some things on fb marketplace?

See this has been an ongoing thing for as long as we have lived here (2 years)- it’s just that the characters appearing at our door have became increasingly unsavoury. They also don’t appear to be struggling (although I appreciate it’s not always obvious). They have just had a hot tub installed, go on holiday several times a year, kids are head to toe in designer clothes etc but they work minimum wage jobs. I will add- this isn’t an affluent area and they rent from housing association so it sticks out a bit more.

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HelloGoodbye92 · 29/07/2023 09:16

Quicknamechange4this · 29/07/2023 09:14

Sounds exactly like it. This has happened to me. It will only get worse and next you will have people trying to break in as they mistakenly think you are next door.

I didn’t report it as I was too scared but fortunately one of the other neighbours did and they disappeared fairly quickly. I’m not sure if it was the police or the landlord but you need to do something.

Thank you. DH works away a lot and I’m so worried I’m home alone with the kids and something happens. They are pleasant when we talk to them and don’t “look” like criminals if that makes sense but the whole situation is making me uneasy. I’m just worried that I’m overthinking it.

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Brenna24 · 29/07/2023 09:17

Just tell the police what you have said here. They then have enough information to keep an eye on goings on and make decisions. I would also speak to social services as there are children in there.

I lived next door to someone like that for years. Their kids were slung out to play and banned from coming back to the house for hours, had people coming and going all the time etc. I spoke to social services, so did other people. It got worse and there were screaming rows in the street. It was an awful environment for the kids. Eventually I had a friend from abroad who went to teach at the school as a supply teacher who asked me what the safeguarding procedures were in British schools (long time ago so before it was a obvious as today) as she suspected a child she was teaching was being sexually abused. I actually said "oh god, it's not X is it?" and although she didn't say anything I could see from.her face it was. She reported it to her head teacher who reported it to social services. It took a further 5 years for 2 very damaged children to end up in foster care. Which is heartbreaking because I know how many people reported them for years and how often the police, social services and even their landlord went to court to try and sort things. Every time the court ruled to try and support the family to stay together. Hopefully these days the kids will be better protected.

Drews · 29/07/2023 09:18

Unless they're totally stupid, drug dealers don't tend to shit on their own doorstep. They'd meet them somewhere else away from their home.

TwelfthGiraffe · 29/07/2023 09:18

You just need to report your suspicions to the police.

StartSWagaintomorrow · 29/07/2023 09:18

They would have to be very stupid drug dealers to do it out of their house. I’m sure they must already be on the police radar.

Quicknamechange4this · 29/07/2023 09:22

Drews · 29/07/2023 09:18

Unless they're totally stupid, drug dealers don't tend to shit on their own doorstep. They'd meet them somewhere else away from their home.

My neighbours did. They had a constant stream of people coming by foot and by car. Some people are blatant and don’t care and think no one including the police will do anything about it.

They didn’t look like dealers and the woman was perfectly pleasant.

Next minute I had lads climbing in to the back of my house, another day someone trying to get into the front.

Janieforever · 29/07/2023 09:23

Very few drug dealers are stupid enough to deal from their house. Most have a patch. I suspect it’s something else they sell or provide.

also what will you report them for. Having too many visitors who you feel are rough?

DoubleTime · 29/07/2023 09:24

Is there nowhere you can make an anonymous complaint ? If you are in the UK there is Crimestoppers that you could report suspicions of drug dealing to anonymously.And can you speak to the housing association if you are feeling uncomfortable/threatened by people at your door ?

TheCatterall · 29/07/2023 09:27

In my area I have someone that does it from his house. He thinks he’s untouchable. The police must know but dont seem to crack down ever. 🤷‍♀️

roseopose · 29/07/2023 09:33

Drews · 29/07/2023 09:18

Unless they're totally stupid, drug dealers don't tend to shit on their own doorstep. They'd meet them somewhere else away from their home.

The ones living opposite us before we moved dealt incredibly blatantly from their home. You'd see them handing stuff over and taking money on their doorstep or coming out to drop it through a car window right outside their door. I reported it numerous times but only ever got a response from the police saying they would log it as anti social behaviour Confused
The woman next door to us knew a local councillor who then got the police involved but we moved shortly after so don't know if anything happened about it. One of their customers drunk drove into my partner's car and wrote it off, whole thing was shit.

pepperaunt · 29/07/2023 09:35

We were in that situation when we first moved to London. Our upstairs neighbours were clearly dealing drugs (constantly getting buzzed in the middle of the night as there were no numbers on the buzzers). It all ended when the police pounded on our door at 3 a.m. looking for them but they’d done a runner.

kweeble · 29/07/2023 09:36

My neighbours have been dealing for a long time with lots of visitors. It was very obvious but after being caught they do it away from home more now but I’m not sure what it would take for them to be stopped.
Local taxis and food delivery are common visitors.
I won’t report them to the police or council as I believe they know and turn a blind eye and I do not want to be targeted myself. I would advise you to stay friendly with them and put a no callers sign on your door.

nonevernotever · 29/07/2023 09:47

https://crimestoppers-uk.org/ if you are in the UK, contact crimestoppers. They are an independent charity that work with the police, so you can report suspicions anonymously.

https://crimestoppers-uk.org

HakunaMatiłda · 29/07/2023 10:03

Start up your own ‘distribution business’ and undercut them on prices. That’ll stop people going next door.

Thatswhatitis · 29/07/2023 10:29

Consider getting a ring doorbell and report.

SuperFi · 29/07/2023 10:32

They seem to have an extravagant life style for a couple on minimum wage jobs, I expect they have a fancy car too. Know the type, I don’t know why they do it from home and think no one will notice.

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HelloGoodbye92 · 29/07/2023 10:36

Janieforever · 29/07/2023 09:23

Very few drug dealers are stupid enough to deal from their house. Most have a patch. I suspect it’s something else they sell or provide.

also what will you report them for. Having too many visitors who you feel are rough?

That’s my worry- that it’s me being ridiculous.

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HelloGoodbye92 · 29/07/2023 10:36

Thatswhatitis · 29/07/2023 10:29

Consider getting a ring doorbell and report.

Good idea. I will order one and it least maybe puts people off chapping our door.

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Flymetothetoon · 29/07/2023 10:50

Not necessarily drug dealers they might be selling cheap fags/tobacco/booze brought in from abroad - I know of a few folk around here who do it.

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