To buy my pregnant friend a present already?

Indoorvoicesbluey · 2023-07-28T21:56:42+00:00

one of my very good friends is pregnant via IVF after 3 miscarriages. She’s 12 weeks and has just announced it. I’m so excited and happy for her. I may be a little broody lol. im going for dinner tomorrow with her for a first catch up in ages, would it be acceptable to buy her a little gift to say congratulations? Or would it be too early?

Mummy08m · 28/07/2023 22:57

Maybe a nice card with a heartfelt msg?

Nunganungas · 28/07/2023 22:57

I’d get her something small and simple like a book for the baby or something.

vincettenoir · 28/07/2023 23:58

Not at all I think she’d like to acknowledge it and celebrate. But if it were me I would get a gift for her pregnancy rather than the baby. Like a fancy moisturiser or some nice herbal teas or something.

ScentlessAprentice · 29/07/2023 00:07

You're a bit broody? So you're making it about you. Let your friend have her moment. Just celebrate her wonderful news

Mushroo · 29/07/2023 00:08

vincettenoir · 28/07/2023 23:58

Not at all I think she’d like to acknowledge it and celebrate. But if it were me I would get a gift for her pregnancy rather than the baby. Like a fancy moisturiser or some nice herbal teas or something.

This! I’m currently pregnant and not buying anything until the 20 week scan for the baby.

But I’d love some stuff for me! A voucher for a pregnancy massage or a nice pregnancy moisturiser would be really appreciated. I’d also love more maternity leggings but that might be a weird gift 😂

BrunoMarzipan · 29/07/2023 02:21

I agree with pps, get a gift for your friend, nice smellys or a treat food she likes. Wait a bit to buy any baby bits x

BrunoMarzipan · 29/07/2023 02:25

Sorry, also meant to say I really hope your friends pregnancy goes well! You're a good mate, she must be feeling vulnerable and worried after such a struggle 💐

EarringsandLipstick · 29/07/2023 02:56

You're a lovely friend! I think a card or a thoughtful gift for her is a great idea - not any kind of gift, including a book, that's for the baby.

Hillstreet · 29/07/2023 03:33

vincettenoir · 28/07/2023 23:58

Not at all I think she’d like to acknowledge it and celebrate. But if it were me I would get a gift for her pregnancy rather than the baby. Like a fancy moisturiser or some nice herbal teas or something.

This. I didn’t buy anything for my first born until after the 20 week scan. Unless you know she’s already buying things herself, it’s best not to buy for the baby.

A little treat for her sounds lovely though.

DoughnutDreams · 29/07/2023 03:42

You could give a wee gift such as scratch mittens. Just something small. Some nice moisturiser designed for stretch marks would be lovely. There is a book called, "A best friend's guide to pregnancy" that might be appropriate.
It's okay to show you are excited for her.

Janefx40 · 29/07/2023 04:18

It's a lovely idea but as others have said, definitely nothing for the baby yet. Self-care gift for her fine. I'd probably get something very neutral like chocolate!

As someone who went through IVF and loss (and who spends a lot of time with others going through the same) the anxiety during pregnancy is huge and overwhelming. Of course she may be different but many of us spend the pregnancy in constant fear of it going wrong, certainly until there is regular movement and even then. Just be aware of that. To those who have experienced infertility and/or loss pregnancy does not automatically equals baby in our heads or in reality.

Wishing good things for your friend xxx

blackclouds · 29/07/2023 04:20

vincettenoir · 28/07/2023 23:58

Not at all I think she’d like to acknowledge it and celebrate. But if it were me I would get a gift for her pregnancy rather than the baby. Like a fancy moisturiser or some nice herbal teas or something.

Definitely a gift like bump oil or bubble bath - I loved bio oil and also palmers cocoa butter and that was a little gift , not expensive but thoughtful (I hope) which I bought for a few of my friends when pregnant

MaybeBabyTwo · 29/07/2023 04:22

Please don't buy for baby yet. Your thoughts are well intentioned but you can't know what she's thinking. Buy something nice for the pregnancy, lots of ideas above. X

CarmelfromNorthernRoundup · 29/07/2023 04:32

i think it’s quite personal

I always text my pregnant friends beforehand and say something like “so excited to see you - I’ve got you a little something, you can have it now but also happy to keep it safe for later”

that way the ball is in their court - no one has ever minded me doing this, I think they appreciated the consideration

I personally bought nothing for my baby until something like 34 weeks when my mum practically dragged me into town to get the basics. I had announced to people at 20 weeks but after multiple miscarriages I was so paranoid about “jinxing” things by getting anything too early.

anyway stout sound like a lovely friend and wish you friend lots of luck 💚

CarmelfromNorthernRoundup · 29/07/2023 04:33

*you sound like a lively friend

Summer2424 · 29/07/2023 05:01

Hi @Indoorvoicesbluey aww that's so lovely of you. The gift set below is from Boots, not sure if it will be in store, but anything like this for your friend i think would be great xx

To buy my pregnant friend a present already?

Mangotango39 · 29/07/2023 05:07

As someone who is pregnant , I'd love this .
You sound like a thoughtful friend and genuinely happy for her x

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Indoorvoicesbluey · 30/07/2023 16:18

I took her for dinner last night and gave her a white baby grow with ducks, she loved it. She said money is tight after multiple rounds of ivf. Iv never felt so happy for someone.

im Thinking of getting her something for herself but not sure what? Is there a pregnancy gift set or something?

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El13 · 30/07/2023 21:26

Aw you sound like such a thoughtful friend 🥰