To be so bored

[specky34]

I'm very lucky on the surface and I know that. Please don't tell me I'm entitled etc.

I'm just so bored with life. I wfh so rarely see any other adults. I have no help wit my dc so everyday is the same old routines of school runs and clubs (or now finding new and exciting ways to entertain them since it's the holidays) then mealtimes then bed. I don't go out. Maybe an exercise class once in a blue moon but that's it. Every now and then dh and I will say we're having a "date night" which doesn't actually involve going out but just having a glass of wine and a film when the dc are in bed. Well tonight we did this and argued over what film and then dh fell asleep half way through. And this is the night I'd spent time looking forward to? I just don't know when life got so fucking dull.

I hardly ever get to see my friends and tbh it takes so much planning I can hardly be arsed. I look forwards to evenings where I can have a drink at home then end up feeling disappointed and hungover the next day. I can accept this is life with young dc but god is it this depressing for everyone? I need a hobby!

I can understand what you mean, this stage of life (e.g: settled down with kids) can get quite mundane at times, and when you have kids you are tired all the time with little time to yourself. Oh, and I can empathise with having a drink only to end up hungover. As much as we love our families, it can be so depressing.

I think you have already thought of a way of improving things. A hobby would definitely benefit you when you are feeling like this. Find something you can get passionate about which will ignite a fire in you. Timewise it might be difficult with young kids, but I'm sure you can find a way around it with help from your dh.

Life is what you make it, op. I've been there with two kids 15 months apart, running a business and all the mundane bullshit life has to offer. It can really suck, but you can make it better.

Instead of tv, my husband and I would do a puzzle and we learned some card games. It was a great way to really connect in my opinion. We were able to talk, laugh and listen to music where as you can't do that while watching a movie. Twenty-six years later and we still play cards at least once a week. Just remember that this stage in your life won't last forever, it really won't.

Talk to your husband about both of you exploring a hobby outside of the home. It would be good for both of you.

Thank you both, I know that we are in the trenches at the moment, I just can't see an end to it. Every day is the same and there's no time for enjoyment. Dh is my only support network, we have nobody else really to help with the dc. And I think last night I'd got myself in a mood because we'd planned a 'nice' evening and he'd fallen asleep then I realised just how sad it was that I'd been looking forward to it.

Argghh I could have written this post...it's like living the same day on repeat.

I could have written this too! My youngest is 9 and I keep thinking about life when she’s older:.. But then I feel bad as she’s such a lovely age and I love spending time with her. I just get very little time to myself!… Unless I make it at 5am or 7pm 🙄