Life changes

[Dancetotherain]

Random one…coming up to two years ago, my husband and I split up. We have now separated. (breakup due to he was having an emotional affair).

I ended up in a very very dark place and have worked my butt off to get back to being mummy, employee, daughter, friend etc.

But during this time I’ve came to some big realisations about myself and circle. People take advantage of me (I let them) I’m a yes person, I seem to people please. But I’ve gotten to the point that I generally don’t like many of my family or friends which is leading me to believe I’m the problem.

I hate confrontation so I never say anything to the people.

I let it annoy me so much. I’m scared I’ll end up lonely.

I let people take advantage of me for years, I still occasionally remember things and become full of anger, resentment, shame and embarrassment. I made a big change in my life two years ago and it required me cutting some people out of my life. Some I have let back in, but I have changed. It's really hard to do and with some people they will push back when you start to tell them no. It's worth it though. I'm still working on myself I had a few months group therapy a couple of years ago and that really helped. I wish you well in your journey.

TREXtara - thank you for your response. And well done you! I know it’s what I need to do but it’s quite a scary & daunting thought but I’m 40 now and can no longer life my life to please others. Thank you so much 🥰

Hey!! What do mums do when the kids are with their dads? I feel like I need to be doing something and if I’m not I feel I’ve wasted my ‘me’ time. But then I’ve zero motivation to do anything. I’ve found myself eating rubbish, drinking wine and scrolling social media etc for hours 😫 then I get annoyed with myself. Anyone else in the same boat?