My marriage has been going badly for a while (from both sides) and I recently had a health scare which made me re evaluate the rut I was stuck in. I decided to do more if invited out by friends etc, say yes, instead of no. This included making an effort to try and reconnect with my husband.
On Sunday he asked me if I would like to go to watch the new Oppenheimer film with him sometime this week. I was really touched that he had invited me out so I said I would love to go with him and that I was really looking forward to it. This evening I came home from work and he said he was going out to the cinema at 8 pm with his friend to watch the Oppenheimer film. I felt hurt and asked him why he had asked me to go ? at first he said he didn’t ask me (he did) and then he said he said he didn’t think I would want to so he’d already asked his friend before asking me! He has a history of asking me to do things that I don’t really enjoy so he can criticise me for not wanting to do those things with him. AIBU to be hurt by this and think he is a bit unkind and he was hoping I would say no so he could criticise me? he left without saying goodbye or sorry we can do it another day etc.