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Refused Sourz in Asda

142 replies

Quickandeasy · 27/07/2023 18:40

I don’t regard myself as an unintelligent person but am struggling to understand the logic. I was in Asda earlier with my son and his gf (both 18) and noticed the Sourz on offer so put it in my basket.

I was then told that I couldn’t buy this as I was with two people who may be underage. Gf had her ID but my son had left his at home so therefore couldn’t prove he was 18. I was told as we were all together the possibility is I would share it with minors.

Surely based on this logic if a family with children (of any age under 18) wanted to buy alcohol they would be refused as they are with children who they could share it with?

Does this actually happen to others, in which case are you supposed to leave your children outside the shop or get them to hide in an aisle if you want to buy alcohol?

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sofapaddling · 27/07/2023 18:59

If they suspect it could be bought for someone underage (proxy), then yes they do have to ask for ID. Obviously common sense means that is more likely to be someone who is a 17 rather than a 7, as young children generally don't drink alcohol unlike teenagers . At the end of the day, the consequences for them are far more serious if they get it wrong (unlimited fine, license revoked), compared to a minor inconvenience to the customer.

Original poster
Quickandeasy · 27/07/2023 19:00

YukoandHiro · 27/07/2023 18:56

When I was 28 I got ID'd for a bottle of wine to take to a bbq at my now DH's aunt's house. I didn't have any photo ID with me so I passed it to DH who was 38 at the time, and they refused to sell it to him.

That beats my experience hands down 😂😂😂

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takealettermsjones · 27/07/2023 19:01

Good, Sourz is revolting 😂

Original poster
Quickandeasy · 27/07/2023 19:02

Ok I understand- it’s because Sourz is viewed as a teenage drink and it was therefore assumed (wrongly) that I was buying it on there behalf (I wasn’t). Maybe I need to upgrade to champagne or grey goose

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Original poster
Quickandeasy · 27/07/2023 19:02

takealettermsjones · 27/07/2023 19:01

Good, Sourz is revolting 😂

The cherry one is right up my street 😂

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JasonOsCubanHeels · 27/07/2023 19:03

You’ve got no proof that was your kid. You might have met them outside and been persuaded or paid to buy alcohol for them and once the cashier has asked they have to see the ID. It happens more than you think!

Thoughtful2355 · 27/07/2023 19:05

my mum was refused wine alongisde her meal in tescos when i was 6 years old so yes that happens.

BashfulClam · 27/07/2023 19:07

Frogmila · 27/07/2023 18:57

All that said, didn't Nigella once do a cocktail on one of her programmes, with I think apple sourz and vodka, not sure what else? I seem to think it looked absolutely lethal!

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I drink vodka, apple sourz and lemonade. It tastes like green ice poles.

SamphiretheTervosaurReturneth · 27/07/2023 19:09

Beneficialchampion2 · 27/07/2023 18:46

YABU

The shop is in their right to refuse service if they believe it is intended for someone under 18.

Why does your son not carry ID?

Most people don't. It's not a legal requirement

And this case is quite ridiculous!

SabrinaThwaite · 27/07/2023 19:09

Could be worse. MIL got refused entry to a US pub because she didn’t have ID. Shame she didn’t have her over 60s bus pass with her 🤣

RoseDog · 27/07/2023 19:09

A few weeks my Ds 18 and dd 20 were in Morrisons, Ds never got asked for id to buy alcohol and dd did for an energy drink, she had left her id in her car and had to run out and get it, she was furious! Neither of them look 25!

neverbeenskiing · 27/07/2023 19:10

I have been refused a bottle of wine when buying my weekly shop as I had my then 8 year old with me.

JustDanceAddict · 27/07/2023 19:14

When my eldest was 17 with an 18 year old friend she had to wait outside if friend was buying booze as they wouldn’t serve her friend otherwise

Hummingbird89 · 27/07/2023 19:17

@Beneficialchampion2 why WOULD he carry ID if he wasn’t planning on buying alcohol?!

slashlover · 27/07/2023 19:19

YukoandHiro · 27/07/2023 18:56

When I was 28 I got ID'd for a bottle of wine to take to a bbq at my now DH's aunt's house. I didn't have any photo ID with me so I passed it to DH who was 38 at the time, and they refused to sell it to him.

Well he was buying it for someone who had previously been asked for ID and couldn't provide it.

tealgate · 27/07/2023 19:19

I send my 17 year old outside if I buy wine with my weekly shop 😀

greenteaandmarshmallows · 27/07/2023 19:21

Not this again. They are just doing your job and clearly thought you might be buying it for them. Get over it.

Rosebel · 27/07/2023 19:22

This never occurred to me. I do remember once a cashier asking my DD if the alcohol was for her. DD said no and that was it.
I often go shopping with my young son and I suppose I'll have to stop that as he gets older.
I see both sides. Absolutely the staff could loose their job if they serve alcohol and parents give it to a minor but equally it must be fucking irratating. I think it's shit that supermarket staff now have to interfere with other people's parenting choices.

PlasticineKing · 27/07/2023 19:22

JFC. It’s called a proxy sale. The person on the checkout was absolutely right to refuse to serve you - you do realise that they get people coming in and checking on stuff like this and they could get fined (the person on the till and the shop)? If that was me on the till, there’s no way I’d be talked into serving it to you, for the risk of a fine that I would have to pay. It doesn’t help that it was sourz - maybe if it had been something else it wouldn’t have been picked up on. I get it’s annoying. But you have to see this from the POV of the person on the till. They get a shade over MW and it’s not worth the risk.

When you do the modules about it, it clearly talks to about it being different with younger children. But with young adults the challenge 25 stands.

gingerbubs · 27/07/2023 19:24

I think asda have some weird strict rules. My daughter and some classmates were doing bag packing there a few weeks back to raise money and the guy at the till wouldn't let them put people's paid for alcohol in the bags. Said the children weren't allowed to touch it as they are under 18. Obviously I went through the till my daughter was on and bought some wine, just to test it, but same result 🤣

Hufflepods · 27/07/2023 19:25

I can’t imagine what sort of adult buys sourz to have in the house.
The cashier thought you were buying it for 2 underage kids, which you were so he was just doing his job.

SeaSloth · 27/07/2023 19:26

I had the same thing happen in Waitrose (heaven forbid) with my then husband and five year old. Apparently the whisky (bought alongside a full weekly shop) may have apparently been for the five year old. I mean seriously! I asked to speak to a manager and he said the same.
My son is now 15 and I'm still incensed by it haha!

TRexTara · 27/07/2023 19:28

This is ridiculous and they need to stop.

AvengedQuince · 27/07/2023 19:29

It's very much a teenage drink. DS wasn't asked for ID when I was buying a bottle of red, but I do make sure we are not together when I buy us cider just in case, even though it's proper medium-dry or dry cider.

OldTinHat · 27/07/2023 19:30

It's happened to me. I put the drink back, left the shop, DS stood outside, I went back in and bought it!

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