I have 5 very close friends, we have been friends for 15 years +, all met in random ways in our late teens/early 20s. Our backgrounds are different, 4 live in lovely large mortgage free homes, funded by parents/grandparents/partners families, the other is my SIL, in a very similar position to us. We are comfortable, live in a nice area, nice house, manageable mortgage etc. but we are notably less well off than most of these friends, our kids are all similar ages and their kids are going to 6k a term prep schools, our kids are in the local state school (just as good in my opinion), they are off to villas for the summer, we are doing 10 days in Greece etc.
My DH gets on well with one of the "better off" couples, he claims they are humble and fun to be around, know their privilege etc. he plays golf with my brother and friends husband quite often.
This weekend is my friends (the one DH likes) DDs birthday. She has arranged a picnic (weather permitting) with all the kids, dads invited etc. DD and DS want to go really badly, all the kids get on so well. I've got a broken ankle, so as lovely as a picnic sounds I don't fancy going, not having somewhere appropriate to sit etc. I asked DH to take them, he is saying absolutely not, can't stand half of them and so on. I've asked my brother/SIL to take them, and they will but I think it is really crappy DH can't put his issues aside for the kids. I also don't think any of them are actually up themselves/pretentious, obviously they are my friends but I think they are lovely, they don't brag or make me feel less. I think DH feels inferior so makes them a way they aren't in his mind to feel better. Is DH being unreasonable letting his issues get in the way of our kids fun and a little girls birthday picnic?