Just as I thought my depression was gone…

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SinglemomOf1 · 27/07/2023 12:09

Hello everyone, I’m posting here for the hope more people will see and could give me and advice or just to talk.

As my username suggests I’m a single parent of one child. I have no support or help from anyone and sure it’s been lonely but I’ve managed so far. Always paid my bills on time etc…

I’ve never been on a holiday but I’m due to go on my first holiday tomorrow with my DC and I was very excited when my mom called me and told me devastating news that my grandparents are sick( one has dementia and the other suspected cancer)

At the same moment I received and email and it was from my landlord informing me of a rent increase in 2 months with £200 increase per month which is a lot I couldnt be able to manage.

Just like that I thought everything was going well and I’m finding myself depressed again I havent had my breakfast yet and is lunch time 😞

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Chickenkeev · 27/07/2023 12:48

I think it might be helpful to think of depression on terms of 'in hand' and 'not in hand'. You've recognised that due to circumstances outside your control, it is less 'in hand' than it has been of late. So then it's time to up your self care if you can, and examine these new circumstances to see if you can improve them. And of course, always bear in mind that you may reach a stage where you need a bit of outside help. And there's no shame in that.

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SinglemomOf1 · 27/07/2023 13:06

Thank you for your reply.

Yes, I could say they are out of hand because I can’t do anything to reverse my grandparents’s health. I just found it too much and all in one day and especially before going away.

On the other hand I could work an extra day and get an extra afterschool club day to cover the rent increase. I’m a bit annoyed because there is a leek in my flat and they havent fixed it yet but sent me a rent increase letter its a bit of a slap in the face tbh.

I’ve recognised my depression and I know what triggers it. So when I stay away from social media I feel much better. Spending time outside its also good and makes me feel better.

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Chickenkeev · 27/07/2023 13:17

SinglemomOf1 · 27/07/2023 13:06

Thank you for your reply.

Yes, I could say they are out of hand because I can’t do anything to reverse my grandparents’s health. I just found it too much and all in one day and especially before going away.

I’ve recognised my depression and I know what triggers it. So when I stay away from social media I feel much better. Spending time outside its also good and makes me feel better.

That's a great start, you're being being rational. You're having a normal reaction to unfavourable circumstances which is perfectly reasonable. Keep doing what you're doing re: getting out for walks etc. I'd push back on the increase to push them to get that leak fixed, they have a cheek increasing there tbh. You're having a rough time atm, i hope things improve for you soon x

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