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AIBU?

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StrongTea22 · 26/07/2023 18:52

I’ve had Covid twice within a year unfortunately, both times in bed, and this, in addition to two other viral absences has meant I hit the absence trigger at work. I work in education. Can’t work remotely from home if unwell.

My manager has had an initial meeting with me about my absence where they just said they’d send a letter out saying x,y and z.

a week later I’ve got an invitation to a review, which wasn’t discussed at the above meeting as an X, Y or Z. I declined it as surely I would know about this being an outcome.

long story short, we’ve subsequently had a brief ‘catch up chat’ which they’ve now put in writing as an ‘outcome meeting’ They also challenged me about why I declined the meeting which I explained and stated that policies are for employees too (not just for managers to bash their staff with).

they haven’t been transparent at all about the policy and how it’s been administered to me. Either in person or in writing.
It’s a really one sided letter (you aren’t engaging with the policy kind of vibe) whilst also being outrageously outside of the policy in and of itself in how they’ve dealt with me.

I don’t want to go down the grievance route, but aibu to need this to be looked at?

I can email them back but honestly from a HR POV, I don’t even know where to start.

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Seashor · 26/07/2023 18:54

You MUST go down the grievance route. They won’t think twice about stabbing you in the back. Contact the union too if you haven’t already.

StrongTea22 · 26/07/2023 19:17

Contacted a union rep already.

what I really need is a second pair of eyes on the ground policy.

They’ve completely made up a meeting I didn’t know I was having (no invitation or reference) and they’ve passed it off as being in person and verbal because they thought it best. No communication at all.

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Seasideanticscanleadtosandybuckets · 26/07/2023 19:19

Maybe offer a face to face meeting and go in coughing and spluttering
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Sorry no help.

StrongTea22 · 26/07/2023 19:27

Seasideanticscanleadtosandybuckets · 26/07/2023 19:19

Maybe offer a face to face meeting and go in coughing and spluttering
.
Sorry no help.

Tempting 😆

Genuinely not fit enough to work on any of my absences, but just feel so cheated by how I’m being treat.

last boss was ace at HR stuff, really clear so this just feels so wrong.

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StrongTea22 · 26/07/2023 19:28

HR not ground.

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