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winebreeze · 26/07/2023 14:19

DP is shocking with money. Very bad credit and owes quite a sum of money.
We need to either buy our house or move as landlady selling in 3 years.
I don't want to leave him, he does contribute financially to the household but he won't be in a position where his credit file will be good enough to get a mortgage.
I have started saving for a deposit. I want to buy our house, is this a good idea to do on my own and keep him financially separate from me? Is it achievable on a salary of 30000 to get a mortgage??

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Cheesusisgrate · 27/07/2023 06:45

winebreeze · 26/07/2023 22:35

Thank you for all your advice.
I'd definitely get legal advice once I bought. Also will keep finances separate.

I'm hoping to have saved 10K for a £200,000 house in the north west in three years. Would that be enough?

You need to go on somewhere like Money ssaving expect and read about mortgages.
As pp said, you will not get 6x your salary

Murdoch1949 · 27/07/2023 17:21

Big mortgage on your own. Calculate if you can afford it if interest rates get even higher.

winebreeze · 27/07/2023 22:08

I'm glad I asked. I may have to rethink and look at schemes to help me to buy perhaps.

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Sealover123 · 27/07/2023 22:40

If this is your first property I would go for the best you can comfortably afford without help to buy schemes, those mean you only own a percentage of the house.

Get a 2 bedroom terraced or a decent flat, it won't be your dream property but it's a great stepping stone to get on that property ladder. Then over time as your mortgage gets paid off your capital will increase over time. Good luck ❤️

winebreeze · 27/07/2023 22:58

@Sealover123 ah thanks but I have children so need at least a 3 bed and that'll be a squeeze.

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Sealover123 · 28/07/2023 07:39

I've seen some 3 bed terraced for under £135k in the northwest.

Are they young enough for bunkbeds to save on space? Also be minimalist so less clutter, which makes spaces look bigger.

My point is, don't think you can't afford to get on the property ladder. It can be done but you may need to compromise and make sure it's all in your name.

Cheesusisgrate · 28/07/2023 07:50

Where in NW are you looking approximately? Loads are still affordable on 30k

Soontobe60 · 28/07/2023 07:59

winebreeze · 26/07/2023 22:35

Thank you for all your advice.
I'd definitely get legal advice once I bought. Also will keep finances separate.

I'm hoping to have saved 10K for a £200,000 house in the north west in three years. Would that be enough?

I’d say no. That would only give you a 5% deposit, and therefore make it harder to get a mortgage - the bigger the deposit, the more mortgages are available at a lower rate.
According to Moneysavingexpert site, on an income of 30K you’re likely to get a mortgage of up to 135K. A mortgage of 190K would cost you £1035 a month. On an income of 30K, you take home pay is only around £1975 a month assuming a pension contribution of 3%. You can’t include your partner’s income in the calculations if he is not on the mortgage.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 28/07/2023 09:50

Don't marry him

caringcarer · 28/07/2023 10:35

LumpyPumpkin · 26/07/2023 15:01

I got a mortgage on my own on a salary less than that. However, I was gifted my small deposit and house prices in my area are very cheap. So it will all depend on what size deposit you are able to save and how much the house costs.

My son bought his 2 bedroom house in Hull almost 2 years ago. He paid £75k and it really is lovely. If you can find a place where property is cheap it's doable. If you live in an area like I do where DS's house would cost £160-170 then harder. If your saving for a deposit put it into a LISA as government top it up for you by I think 25 percent.

caringcarer · 28/07/2023 10:39

I've just seen you are NW. The NE is much cheaper if you would be prepared to move. In Hull you can find a 3 bed terraced house for £100k. You'd get a mortgage on that easily. You could spend £120 and find a 3 bedroom house all done up nicely for that much. Have a look on Rightmove. Also if you like seaside Bridlington is cheap too but not so many jobs there but if DH WFH then it's an option.

Toddler101 · 28/07/2023 10:53

caerdydd12 · 26/07/2023 22:50

Nowhere near enough in my opinion, it's a 5% deposit with nothing left over for survey, solicitor fees or moving expenses. I'd also doubt you'd manage to borrow 190k on 30k earnings. It's over 6x your annual earnings without taking into account anything that reduces affordability with their stress tests (dependents, childcare, debts etc).

On 30k I'd be expecting to borrow a max of £135k really.

Agree! I also came to say just this!

It'd probably be more like 120-130k OP would be able to borrow although if OP has any childcare to finance on top, that'd be a factor too.

I'd wonder how they'd fund the rest of the buying expenses on top of their 10k deposit (which isn't much of a deposit either, sadly).

Help to Buy or Part buy part rent scheme might be better, maybe?

OP - get yourself a good mortgage advisor to book in a chat with now and if nothing else at this stage it'll give you a ballpark savings target to aim for.

Erber · 28/07/2023 16:58

Honestly I'd speak to a mortgage broker. I've known 2 single people (both with kids) to buy a house on a single income and both of thrm went through brokers that were able to get them better deals than they would ever be able to secure on their own. I don't own any property but it's something I've looked into quite extensively as I'd like to one day.

winebreeze · 29/07/2023 15:18

Thanks again, going to a broker is a good call

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Olderandolder · 29/07/2023 15:20

MillWood85 · 26/07/2023 14:25

I would get legal advice first. Make sure that he can't affect your credit score by him using it as his address, and what happens if he runs more debt up when you're living there......

And if you ever marry, he could then claim half.

I'd ask a solicitor, not MN.

Exactly this!

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