Constant comments!! (Lighthearted)

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Have recently moved back in with my very generous DParents to save for a deposit after my tenancy expired.
However one thing that is doing my absolute head in is my DDad's need to pass comment on absolutely EVERYTHING I do!!!

E.g. today I was making myself lunch and he walks into the kitchen and goes "oh, fish fingers again is it". YES IT BLOODY WELL IS. WHY MUST YOU COMMENT ON THAT?!
Or "what time are you leaving for work?". I reply "11:20", to which he replies "I thought you usually leave at 11:30"... WHY ASK IF YOU KNEW THE ANSWER ALREADY?!!!

Does anyone else's DParents do this and does it drive them mad or am I completely irrational?!!! Aaaaargh

@greenteaandmarshmallows - of course it is. People like different strengths. Some like sugar, others prefer coffee. DH & I rarely make each other drinks.

Only fish finger sandwiches are allowed? 😝

FYI the tea making will be part of the hidden agreement for you living with then!
Also, have a go at loudly slurping your tea during their favouritetv show to annoy them back, you'll soon find them quieter

My parents' constant checking the smart meter did it for me. Fretting over going past £2 a day because I had a 15 minute long shower, turning the telly off after it cost 10p. DM carries it around the house with her sometimes!

Also the comments on how much milk I used and how expensive milk is now! I snapped at that in the end 🙄

When I was a young adult living at home (in university holidays) it used to bug me that every time I went to leave the room, my mother would ask "Where are you going?". While we lived in a good-sized house, there was a limit as to where I could be going. For example, it was unlikely I was descending to the wine cellar, or fetching something from the East Wing, or deciding to explore the ramparts.

I really understand how much Dads can irritate!

When my Dad comes to visit he does so for a couple of months.I was 37 and we were in a city, he reached out to take my hand, often made comments when we crossed the road like ‘car coming!’. Constantly wants tea, will leave unasked for cups of tea outside my bedroom and reuses teabags! To reuse teabags which have made milky tea is revolting, I don’t drink milk in any hot drinks.

He also appears to feel that I am unable to use an alarm clock and would shout for me at least 30 mins before getting up time so I was not late for work… because I’ve been incapable of arriving on time for work before his recent visit.

One evening when I was late home, he made the short walk to my work (I wasn’t answering my mobile because a parent had popped by unannounced and wanted a chat about their Dd) to check I was ok. He bumped into the least discrete ( professional wobblegob) member of staff who gave him tea and listened/ encouraged him rattle off numerous embarrassing anecdotes and highly exaggerated stories of my ‘achievements’, causing much hilarity in the staffroom and an announcement in briefing the next morning that I could only take detentions if my Dad gave me permission! Even DH had told my Dad I get in when I get in and me being late home is perfectly usual.

He also fed the dog so much extra food she put on 3 kg in 3 months, causing me to get side eye from the vet, too be fair dog worked out he was complete pushover and no amount of ‘The dog has been fed and is fine.’ Would stop unsolicited trips to the butcher. Dog even moved out of our room at night and in with Dad for the duration of his stay and missed him far more than we did when he went home.

We love them, but goodness Dad’s can take irritating to heightened levels. I am really glad to see him but never that sad at the departures gate when he is flown home.

Good luck op, just think of that deposit!

You know what, I have a friend who does this now I'm pregnant.

Asks me questions then seems to bloody "mark" me on the answer.

If you want to tell me what it was like for you or what you think I should do then just say so.

@MsRead
Dog even moved out of our room at night and in with Dad for the duration of his stay and missed him far more than we did when he went home.

😂

@MsRead I think this is soooooo lovely 🥰 I know your experiencing it and it irritates you, but from the outside this sounds cute!

Oh god, my FIL has a similar habit but his is that he can't help but read out every sign you pass when you're out. Like, you drive past a field with a sign for the weekly car boot sale and you just know he's going to say "car boot sale on Sunday". It's so harmless, but so irritating. And now my DH has started it too. Doomed.

You've just experienced the age-old phenomenon of reverting to teenage when with your parents.

"Dog even moved out of our room at night and in with Dad for the duration of his stay and missed him far more than we did when he went home."
OMG that's would really upset me"

@KimberleyClark I have curly hair - wash it about 2...maybe 3 times a week and it takes about 10 minutes to wash, condition and detangle. It's a proper beauty regime in itself! I wash myself while the conditioner is in my hair before rinsing.

Going to time myself on my next wash day!

Oh OP

That sounds infuriating, and also quite sweet. You know YABU, but I think most people would feel the same and just try to not show it.

My DM brings me constant bags of random stuff. Clothes she's bought in the charity shop. Toys and games for DD. Food. Niknaks (not food!).

And then moans at me about how I have so much stuff and DD has so many toys, and I need less stuff so I can keep it organised. 🤷‍♂️

I asked if she could remember the style of bra she wore when I was a kid, as it's exactly what I'm looking for and can't find anything similar. So this week she's turned up with a bag of about 10 bras that are absolutely nothing like what I wanted, because she bought multipacks of them and then didn't like them, and obviously me enquiring about a bra means I must be making do with gaffer tape or something.

At least you know what to get her for Christmas - a little bag with a window for it that she can wear round her neck.

Practical and stylish

Op are you my sister I didn't know existed

My parents do all of that! Drives me bonkers

Ah don't mess with that if I make a drink it comes as I make it I'm not making different strength tea

Again are you paying your share of the bills? It sounds like money is tight for them.

I know this was intended to be (lighthearted) but I think some posters might need to think about their financial impact on their parents and make sure they are paying their way

Hahah i rented for 5 years I know exactly how much electricity costs😂
Fortunately for them, my parents aren't exactly short on money, nor am I, so yes I do pay my share of the bills, however we are lucky enough that we don't need to worry about how much it costs to boil a kettle ❤️

Infuriating but also quite sweet is exactly how I'd describe it too 😂

And another one:
Went to use my old printer from when I was a student, naturally it wasn't working as I haven't used it in years.
DMum: "I can fix that!!!"
Cue ten minutes of faffing and telling me that it's not plugged in...
"no mum it's wireless"
"DONT TELL ME HOW TO USE A PRINTER I WORKED IN AN OFFICE FOR THIRTY YEARS"
... honestly

But theu are worried about the length of your showers so I'd try and be more considerate

They're millionaires!

@GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut That's the most wonderful idea 😂