Dad forgot my son's birthday

11 replies

Allthesweets · 26/07/2023 10:31

Hi all,

Just wondering what everyone else thinks. My son's first birthday was yesterday and we're having a small party for him this weekend, which my dad is coming to or has said he is.

But I heard nothing from him yesterday, no text, no card, no gift. I'm upset that it was his only grandson's first birthday and he either completely forgot or didn't think to even message.

He also doesn't even seem really interested in talking about my son or making an effort to see him that much.

Thanks

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Serena73 · 26/07/2023 10:37

He's either forgotten or else he is coming to the party and bringing a present with him?

I would send him a quick message saying 'are you still coming to the party?'

Backtoreality1 · 26/07/2023 10:39

Could be he has connected the party at the weekend with being the actual birthday and so will be bringing something then.

WeetabixTowels · 26/07/2023 10:39

TBH outside the family I live with I expect to be reminded about these things - especially the 1st birthday when there’s never been a birthday before.

Chlora · 26/07/2023 10:42

But... he's coming to the party. I think you're being a little sensitive.

Youdoyoutoday · 26/07/2023 10:42

My dad forgets all birthdays! Even mine, my uncle had to remind him it was my 40th birthday which my dad seemed to be quite proud of by the way he kept telling everyone!
Irksome to say the least but that's just his way and it's pointless getting annoyed, it will eat you up more than it will him.

But agree a quick text to confirm he's coming to the party is a good idea

SisterAgatha · 26/07/2023 10:44

My MIL never remembers my kids birthdays or that they exist in general tbh. We have to remind her every single time. DD said “it’s 14 days till my birthday!” And she said oh no, it’s your uncles birthday next, and then it’s my holiday and then it’s your cousins.

Spidey66 · 26/07/2023 10:47

I think you're being a little oversensitive. It's only early, and/or he's tying everything in with the party.

dcsp · 26/07/2023 10:48

This is a non-issue IMO. You're "doing" the birthday at the weekend, that's when he'll bring a card & a gift, and wish your son a happy birthday.

Next time, you could always say something like "we're having a party on Saturday, but it'd be nice to see you on his actual birthday too, so if you'd like to pop round on the Tuesday after your work that'd be lovely"

Spidey66 · 26/07/2023 10:48

Sorry the bday was yesterday. My error. He may still be tying it all in at the party xxx

Incognito2023 · 26/07/2023 10:52

At 1, your son isn’t really aware of the actual day - I’m sure your dad is just thinking of the party as the day that counts, and will bring a gift then. Overthinking it.
And many grandads will interact more as child gets older rather than baby stage

JenniferBarkley · 26/07/2023 10:59

He's coming to the party, he'll celebrate then.

Some people just aren't big into birthdays - unless he makes a huge fuss of everyone else's and has massive demands for his own then I'd just forget about it and enjoy the party.

Him not taking an interest in general must be very disappointing though

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