Not selling festival tickets

[Lauryn95]

So basically me and partner get away every year once a year to a festival and that's our thing ,been doing it the last few years we have 2 kids already and they go to one of our parents but they were toddlers not babies when we started this ,anyway this year we booked for next year knowing I was pregnant and would have a 6 month old by the time it comes around ,people have made comments saying how can I leave a 6mo and saying its alot to put that onto our parents ,3 kids (older ones would be 7 and 5) and then the youngest will be 6 months old ish. I feel guilty keeping the tickets and tbh I am worried about going but by the time it comes round now but I might be ready to leave the baby and so I'm keeping the tickets incase I do wanna go but can't help but feel guilty now for leaving the baby and feeling abit selfish due to peoples comments ,parents have said in a joking way about being burdened by a baby for the weekend but idk if they're being serious disguised as a joke now ,am I unreasonable to have this booked and be willing to go or have I just let people's comments get in my head for nothing ?

If you’re happy to go and the grands-parents are happy to look after them then nothing else matters!

have a wonderful time

Can't you take the baby with you? In a wrap?

You're not unreasonable but you might indeed want to keep an open mind if that is what you want to do closer to the time. I didn't want to leave my baby at that age, other people are more relaxed about it. I didn't know that I would feel so strongly about it beforehand.

Go and enjoy yourselves! I'm sure if your parents didn't want to babysit they'd let you know.

So keep an open mind. Keep the tickets and don't decide until about a month before hand. You should still have time to sell them if that's what you decide and you still have the tickets if you (and grandparents) are happy for you to go. I really don't see much point stressing at this stage!

parents have said in a joking way about being burdened by a baby for the weekend but idk if they're being serious disguised as a joke now

It sounds like your parents feel a bit pressure into doing this then, perhaps that is where your guilt stems from.

Depends on your parents I think. I'd be very happy to go in your circumstance but it is a lot to ask if they are not in good health / get tired easily. If they're genuinely up for it don't see the problem.

How far away is it. If Its in Devon and you live in Inverness I'd more cautious but not so far away, fine.

So I was feeling like I didn't know if I was gonna be up for it but bought them while they were cheap and kept the tickets anyway because I have no idea how I'll feel by the time it come around ,I was only feeling on the fence due to how I'd personally feel being away from baby but now other people's comments have made me feel like it's actually a pretty selfish thing to do which I didn't originally feel like and the comments my parents made I took as a joke when they made it but then due to the unwanted comments that have got me feeling guilty I'm over analysing the situation trying to decipher if it was a joke ,if that makes sense? Everything I feel while pregnant I try not to look into too much bc hormones are unreasonable lol it's only a 40 min drive away but you can't take kids it's an adult only festival ,I will keep the tickets and just try to keep in mind that it's only 2 nights away and everything will be fine and can change my mind if I wish and try not to let other comments get to me ,It's other mums mainly making comments saying oh I could never and I should use the money for a family holiday ( we have one of those planned too) or saying how can you just be okay leaving a 6mo with someone else what if they're not sleeping through the night etc that's making me question myself and if I'm being selfish ,thanks for the reassurance I'm just over thinking I think

Postpone the decision until a month before the festival then sell on if you've changed your mind. It's certainly not selfish to go away if everyone is happy with the arrangement.

I would ask your parents if they are honestly happy with the arrangement, and be prepared to hear no and change your plans if necessary. You need to find out if they actually feel pressured or not.