To go away for a few nights every year?

[RingosBongos]

I have two kids with my partner, 6 and 11.

I have a group of friends that I try to go away with for a low budget trip once a year. It's something that's become a fun thing to do but It's never involved my partner (more of a girls thing). We've been doing it for years. I always have a lovely time and come home buzzing. But, it takes me away for 3 nights.

I do not go out much at all without the kids (apart from work), and this is a true break for me. But my partner is not happy with me going every year. I know it's a lot for him to manage the kids on his own for a weekend, and we don't have family who can help out. He's very hands on and great with the kids but obviously they are hard work when it's just you. He also has a job that requires him to do sometimes do some work evenings and weekends.

I really want to go. I would also be more than happy for him to go away for a few nights, but he does not want to.

I'm after some honest opinions, is it ok for me to do this once a year? Money is not an issue.

I think I first went away for a few nights with work when mine were 6 months and just turned 2, and later with a 6 month, 6 year and 7 year old. Annoyingly the house is always tidier than when I left!

Did 4 then 2 nights in June with 4, 10 and 11 Yr old at home. They can essentially do everything anyway, the older 2 can cook etc.

6 and 11 and you go away ONCE A YEAR?! I just left DH with a 4 and 18 month old for a week, been on several other weekends away and a couple more coming up. This is such a non issue stop making excuses for him and just book it.

^4 years and 18months that is!

These trips are essential in my opinion, to hold on to a sense of self, to only think for yourself and look after yourself for a few days, they recharge you. Please don't not go. Let him sulk shrug it off.
Looking after your own kids is not comparable to teaching , I mean he loves them for a start.
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Doesn’t he want you to have a lovely time? As your husband he should want you, the woman he loves, to enjoy your life. Just three days a year! Does he know millions of people look after children alone every single day and night?

Why is it harder for him to cope with his own kids when you’re having fun, than when you’re at work? 🤔

This. I left my then 2 year old and 9 month old with my husband for 5 days to go away with friends. It was absolute bliss! He's away a lot for work so couldn't complain, and he's gone on a lads holiday this year too. We have another girls holiday planned next year. DH is fine with it and we are supportive of each other in doing stuff for ourselves. What's the reason he doesn't want you to? 6 and 11 sounds like a piece of piss from where I'm standing 😅 no nappies and relatively independent? What's the issue? Is it more about having them a lot more on his own in general because of the school hols?