To think that ‘feeling broody’ is no joke 😳

[Narwhalelife]

I have DD (14) from my 1st relationship - I had her very young and she wasn’t a ‘planned baby’, i never ever felt broody before or after her she is my only child, was always very happy with that fact …fast forward and i am now in a relationship with my dream man who also has a DD. Honestly he is the love of my life.

Been together over a year now and suddenly, as in literally from Saturday morning to now, I am consumed with baby thoughts. Sex drive through the roof, but also cried in the bathroom last night because my dog has been spayed and will never be a mum (🥹😆😂) so slightly irrational too.

We have discussed kids (before today) and although it would be wonderful, it is not for us for many many reasons and I am at ease with this decision - plus who wasn’t a nearly 15 year age gap! 😳

But blimey isn’t Mother Nature powerful😮‍💨

*who wants that’s should say, sorry for the typos

It certainly is overwhelming. I've been there. What surprised me too though is how it turn d around so quickly and went from very broody to thinking I couldn't imagine worse than becoming pregnant!

I also realised that wonderful partner of a year or so, who still is a wonderful partner wouldn't have been the dad I thought he would be and wanted him to be, so it turned out a real blessing it didn't happen. I don't think we'd still be together if we'd had a child (13 years later).

Sorry, but this is a feeling I have never had and find difficult to understand.
Just goes to show we are all different.

@vivainsomnia thank you for replying, I know what you mean, new DP and I have big plans for the future, holidays, house renovations etc so it’s not for us, hoping it passes quickly😬😬

Honestly this was me for all my life and even though I have DD I have never ever felt broody, infact always the opposite!! But this has knocked me for 6 out of nowhere!

I know the feeling. I'm 41 so getting those feelings of broodiness and knowing that it's too late for me really. I've got 5 dc, the youngest is 9 and I am so tired. I don't want another one. I don't want to do morning sickness, c section recovery, night feeds or potty training again. But sometimes I miss having a newborn sleeping on me, their tiny little hands, their tiny clothes and those first smiles.

Aww OP, I can empathise it’s such an overwhelming feeling, very consuming and hard to ignore. Possibly your hormones in over drive perhaps.

My cousins have a 16 year gap and they have a lovely relationship ! Never to late sorry 😆

I sympathise. When I had this I had an actual physical pain in my chest.

You will suddenly see pregnant women everywhere! It is like your body has kicked into baby overdrive! It is very strange and can become very strong.

But it does pass. I was very broody about 6 or 7 years ago (now 46). I even looked at success rates for 10 year old vasectomy reversal. Fortunately passed now and I am very glad to not have a 6 year old running around. But at the time it was very strong.

I have children but I have never ever ever felt broody

Thank you for all responding! I am blown away by how it all feels! It is an actual pain! And my partner has never looked so utterly desirable, I mean he is really fit of course I fancy him all the time but poor bloke can’t even eat a sandwich without me lusting after him at the moment 😂

It’s your hormones. You’ll hate him when you hit peri menopause 🤣🤣

Literally until Saturday this was me! Never understood it! Even when family would say ‘oh you’ll want another’ etc never had that, 14 yr old and bam 😂😂 and Iv got lots of nieces and nephews and none of them every stirred it up in me at all!

DP is really sweet, he thinks the massive increase in attention and sex drive was his new shirt he wore out on Saturday 🥹 but I’ll be honest he would be wearing a bin bag right now 😂😂

I actually said to my mum I’m dreading the menopause if this is what hormones can do!

My eldest is 18 and youngest is 19 months... also 6 months pregnant. My little boy adores his big brother. Big age gaps can be good 😆

Blimey! 🥰 please don’t tell me that! I’m looking at my 14 yr old and thinking about all the positives that having one of them brings and not having to start again 🫣🤣

I agree that it is all hormones. I was the same when I was about to turn 40. I couldn’t see any downsides at all. Now I’m 44 and I am so grateful that I never acted on it. My life is so much better for not having another child. My children are late teens now and it’s absolute bliss. I agree though that it’s a powerful feeling, not too dissimilar to a massive crush, but the subject is more abstract.

It so powerful, almost a physical pain. I have it whenever a friend has a new baby and I just have to push it out of my mind because we haven’t got the money or space for another child!

Are you sure you’re not coming on your period/already pregnant or possibly pre-menopausal?

The fact that you are so emotional and horny tells me it’s definitely your hormones out of wack and the broodyness is just a side affect of it.

This is why DH is snipped, like you I had mine young before those feelings really could set in. I've seen too many people experience last chance saloon broodiness in late 30s into 40s, so DH got snipped to take it off the table for us as we should not be having any more children!

i was thinking this when op said she cried about the dog 👀

This happened to my sister. She had never wanted children and married her childhood sweetheart only after he said he also wanted to be childfree. Then when she hit 30 she suddenly changed her mind and it was honestly like the boss of all babies had taken over her and was making her want one. She didn’t talk about anything else or think about anything else. She convinced her husband to have one baby as ‘a compromise’ and she was so happy when she got pregnant and couldn’t talk about anything else other than pregnancy and how she would be as a mother etc.

When she was around 8 months pregnant our older sister organised a baby shower for her with all her friends and family and me and our youngest sister found her sobbing in her bedroom: it just hit her she was going to have a baby because she suddenly had all this baby stuff in her house, and she didn’t want a baby, had never wanted a baby and she was inconsolable.

The child wasn’t neglected by my sister exactly but wasn’t loved/cherished. Basically their basic needs were taken care of by her, but that was it. Her marriage ended before the baby was 6 months old and she regretted losing her marriage and changing her life as well as having a baby. It was a really difficult time for everyone for various reasons.

Her child is now grown up and has moved away. When they come back to the area to visit, they don’t stay with my sister and stay with different family members each time and just visit her for an hour or two because they don’t get on very well.

So in answer to your question, for some women it’s definitely no joke!

I have a coil so deffo not pregnant and I’m 33 so I think a bit early for menopause stuff?

It’s like being hit by a train