Friend and child's dad

[shas19]

I'm at a loss at this point of what to say to her anymore. Her sons dad has cheated 5 times. 5 different women. He lies,manipulates, is a useless father, all round vile person. She's absolutely bessoted with him. She can't get past the 'i love him snd hes his dad", the amount of times I've sat and listened to her cry about the same stuff I've lost count. Last week she see more messages from a previous woman he cheated with and his newest flavour of the month..two days later he's back and all if forgotten. I cannot stand him and can't be around him anymore. I've told her it's embarrassing at this point, he knows he can get away with it and doesn't love you. She's desperate for him to "pick her,". I don't want to lose our friendship but it's draining me.

I am saying this with a lot of kindness... please stay out of this. Support her , lend an ear and even help her whenever you can but don't expect her to make a decision. It will ruin your friendship. Relationships are way more complicated than we think they are and I know you are coming from a point of care and lot for concern for your friend. But she has to do this on her own and in her own time and needless to say it's incredibly hard.

I know this, from past experience also! It's getting really hard to just lend an ear and help now. It's genuinely the same thing every week. She expects everyone to just forget because she does and it's got to the point it's effecting her other children and she can not see it

Can you create some distance between you both for a while. I know it's incredibly hard to see her her suffer and go back and forth.

She's using you. I would just walk away from the friendship.