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My boss and flowers

44 replies

whichdirection · 23/07/2023 21:07

My current line manager did me a favour (gave me the contact details of someone who could give advice on a non work related matter). I got her an inexpensive bunch of flowers on the way to work to say a small thanks. Spent the day working, at the end of the day popped into her office to ask something and saw the flowers were on someone else’s desk. I didn’t actually think anything of it until she said “Colleague is taking the flowers home for me because she lives across the road” (FYI boss doesn’t live a long commute away, she also lives within walking distance of workplace)
am I being unfair to think WTF 😂 I got her some flowers and she gave them away to a colleague?! Blimey if they weren’t her thing she could have waited until I’d left for the day to pass them on or even just binned them en route home, is it just me or is that a bit off to literally give the flowers I’ve gifted her to a colleague while I’m still there and then tell me she’s done it?!

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TurnerP · 23/07/2023 22:02

Don't even bother doing that! I suggest a thank you email with a image of a 💐 attached

orangeleavesinautumn · 23/07/2023 22:06

I hate being given flowers, and they normally get passed on straight away or go in the bin.

It is a horrendous industry, devastating to the environment, and very damaging indeed to workers in africa, and other places cheap flower inports come from.

Why should poor african women be left disabled producing a product designed purely for rich western women to look at?

Bonbon21 · 23/07/2023 22:07

It really sounds like she wasn't going straight home from work and the colleague/neighbour was transporting(!) them for her.
I think she appreciated your gesture for what it was... a small thank you for a favour.
You really are overthinking this.

ABugWife · 23/07/2023 22:16

TurnerP · 23/07/2023 21:33

Or she simply has a jealous partner at home who easily becomes suspicious!

This was my immediate thought. I can imagine my exes reaction if I came home from work with flowers.

AngelinaFibres · 23/07/2023 22:17

whichdirection · 23/07/2023 21:21

Oh God now I’m really cringing that I broke some kind of workplace etiquette and I’ve embarrassed both of us 😂🙈 I was just trying to say a quick thanks for a favour she did me, sort of thing I do all the time in everyday life with friends to show appreciation if they’ve helped me out

She's absolutely not your friend. She's your boss.Totally inappropriate thing to do.

TurnerP · 23/07/2023 22:17

ABugWife · 23/07/2023 22:16

This was my immediate thought. I can imagine my exes reaction if I came home from work with flowers.

Mine too!

TruthThatsHardAsSteel · 23/07/2023 22:18

My stupid cat will eat the flowers. Anything like that?

noglow · 23/07/2023 22:18

Do you have a crush on her or is this a genuine thanks no strings attached?

Lockeddownagain · 23/07/2023 22:18

Is she allgeric people give me flowers and it's awful cos I'm so allgeric I have to give them away. I gave a huge bunch of sunflowers to my mil on my birthday the make is so sick

Blossomtoes · 23/07/2023 22:23

orangeleavesinautumn · 23/07/2023 22:06

I hate being given flowers, and they normally get passed on straight away or go in the bin.

It is a horrendous industry, devastating to the environment, and very damaging indeed to workers in africa, and other places cheap flower inports come from.

Why should poor african women be left disabled producing a product designed purely for rich western women to look at?

So putting them in the bin is the answer? 🙄

orangeleavesinautumn · 23/07/2023 22:24

Blossomtoes · 23/07/2023 22:23

So putting them in the bin is the answer? 🙄

its my answer - nobody ever gives me flowers twice

Lostinplaces · 23/07/2023 22:25

my colleagues and I but each other flowers to cheer each other up during difficult times, to say thanks, sometimes just because. You did a nice thing. If she didn’t want them she should have been more discreet about it.

jennyjones198080 · 23/07/2023 22:27

I would be embarrassed if one of my team bought me flowers - but also pleased if that makes sense?!

i do think she might have been goign
for dinner, a drink, shopping or something after work.

I have never been bight flowers - but someone bought me a minis bottle of gin and a minis bottle of tonic once when I did something very small for them. I was really touched. Not necessary but really sweer

whichdirection · 23/07/2023 22:28

She’s really nice, I think I’ve misread it and as others have suggested she must live across the road from the colleague who was for whatever reason taking them home for her as a favour. What a palava 😂

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jennyjones198080 · 23/07/2023 22:30

you sound lovely. I am sure your boss appreciates you!

TurnerP · 23/07/2023 22:31

whichdirection · 23/07/2023 22:28

She’s really nice, I think I’ve misread it and as others have suggested she must live across the road from the colleague who was for whatever reason taking them home for her as a favour. What a palava 😂

Can we have flowers for helping you? 😝

whichdirection · 23/07/2023 22:44

@TurnerP 😂💐💐💐

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TurnerP · 23/07/2023 22:45

MUCH appreciated! 😁😁

Hurtingnowq · 23/07/2023 22:59

Not a big deal. Don’t make it into one. You made a kind and appreciative gesture. I’m sure she was grateful. Seriously OP it’s fine. No need to feel awkward or embarrassed.

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