Disappointed and hurt TBH

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I have been a supply teacher at one school for 15 years. I have covered all sorts from reception to Y6 and have obviously seen a fair few cohorts of leavers through the school. I have gone in last minute to cover sickness. I have covered classes on a regular basis for newly qualified teachers or deputy head cover. Also, I have accompanied school trips and taken some ex-curricular activities . The flexibility of supply has suited whilst children were small and whilst elderly parents have needed support. However, I have always felt more like a member of staff rather than supply and have tried to go above and beyond. That is also how I have been treated until now. I have been invited to leaving dos etc. I have put into collections etc and I always buy a round!
Worth also saying that my husband has made stuff FOC for early years. He had just made an outdoor wooden play kitchen. No thanks for his time.
Anyway, I have just got another job. I gave good notice etc, even though as supply I don’t need to. I was in on the last day, not even a goodbye or good luck from anyone. I did get, “Have a nice summer!” No leaving card, nothing.
Also, feel that DH could do with a bottle of something. He didn’t mind making the kitchen thing, but I am sure he’d rather have been on the golf course! He hasn’t said anything, but I can tell he’s bit put out about it. At least, I have a salary.
Am I being unreasonable to feel a bit narked? If I am honest, it’s a bit embarrassing too. It’s like I’ve not been valued at all.

After 15 years?
Very rude of them!
Permanent staff rarely stay in one job so long!
I'd be miffed too.
Good luck in your new job

Do the rest of the staff know? They might think you just mean you have another supply job in September and might be back?

I'd be upset too op. But I think this is thoughtlessness rather than intentional unkindness. Whoever has responsibility for doing a whip round or buying a card simply hasn't got you on their list of leavers, because you're supply. Lots of people won't have heard that you're leaving. Some will think you'll still be coming back to do supply sometimes. I'm sorry it's happened. Try not to take it personally and I guess be glad that you're off to pastures new.

You are so right to feel upset. I left my previous school after 16 years and I got a bottle of wine from my line manager that was all

Teaching is such a thankless job please try not to let it get to you. It kinda reinforces that you've made the right decision in moving on. Enjoy your summer

Thats terrible OP I'm so sorry. 15 years is such a long time. Did they all know you were leaving? Did you tell them yourself or assume someone else did?

I'm in Education and I'm sorry to sound negative, but I can't imagine there's any other job more shite when you leave. It really is a case of out of sight, out of mind.
YANBU

I don't think employers value anyone today , we're all disposable. Your colleagues though , they either didn't know or are totally thoughtless so yes I'd also be upset .

Thanks for your support everyone. My interview was a source of amusement!
It’s widely known that I am going. I have been racking my brains trying to think what I have done to piss everyone off. I really can’t think of anything.
I just needed a bit of a rant TBH.

I think possibly what has happened is this:

1. Head is a knob
2. I work all over the place and so I don’t have a parallel teacher/ class LSA to take the lead. I have kind of been forgotten.

Still shit though!!

That’s really mean, I would be upset too. I hope you will be more valued in your new role OP, good luck.

I’d feel the same way tbh. It’s shit they did nothing to mark you leaving after 15yrs of you not only doing a good job, but doing extra.

They will feel your absence if it’s any consolation.

Not nice. My brother law got nothing over 30 yrs there!! Its proved we all just a number. I was hurt for him though

Regardless of the head teacher why didn’t any of your colleagues organise something? I would
be really hurt by this.

I agree it’s not nice for you. I work in a trust. After 11 years I was moved to another school. Maybe it was because it was the same trust but I found it sad that my last day there was just like any other last day of term. I was based in that school for a long time so it felt a bit rubbish to just move on without anyone really saying anything. I still see them, but it wasn’t the same as working there each day.

Did you suggest everyone go for a leaving drink?

That would have prompted a whip round.

TBH I didn’t want to prompt a whip round. Heartfelt thanks and good luck would do me. If I have to prompt it,I feel it’s a bit pointless.
We went out together last weekend, as a couple of people were going away early the day after.

I'm sorry op. I once left a job where it had been my job to organize all the leaving cards etc and when I left (when a lot of ppl were on annual leave)l including boss) no one did anything for me!
Some texted after saying that they should have done something and acknowledged that it had been a rubbish lack of send off thought

I've also had a TA job one day a week for a year and all the staff and parents signed a card and both did collections and gave me John Lewis vouchers, my job share was also leaving so this might have prompted it.

It's just sort of luck who does these kind of things

Education here as well. We recently had a permanent member of staff leave. 4 years service. Her new manager (who was the major reason for the resignation) refused to organise the collection on any grounds because she was new. The person leaving was lovely - there were no possible grounds - we've all been there with new staff and we crack on. I asked the heads pa who under these circumstances should organise the leaving card AND collection. Quick reply: could I please do so. I did. It was left at reception for a couple of weeks. I had to walk around the school when ever I had a free moment asking people to contribute to card signing and collection. I left the card with the aforesaid heads pa for SLT to sign. A few signatures but no contribution at all. A few small coins - it really was who are you? It was the biggest sign I could have had that this school just simply never values its support staff. Despite the numerous "christian" values. I am not surprised by your experience at all.

I left my job on June (not a teacher). I was made redundant. The meeting was on Friday lunch time. They said I didn't have to work my notice so I left and that was it. Only me and MD in the office. I had been there 5 years. No one contacted me to say goodbye. Nothing

DD had a supply for two terms when their teacher had personal issues, she was surprised (and grateful) when we gave her a present at the end of the year as she had done most of the teaching that year.

Ive just left my school after 11 years and am overwhelmed with all the love, cards, gifts and kind words I received!

It's shit you weren't acknowledged.. really disgusting!