Child’s Passport

[Sophie89j]

So basically my teenage daughter moved to live with her father a few months ago and she is now asking for her passport.

She’s stated it’s to change her address with the bank which I replied I’d happily meet her at the bank or take her to change her address if she wants as I am not willing to handover an important government document to a teenager and her father.

She’s now claiming she needs it to go to Spain in August which I replied you’ll need to renew it anyway because of the new expiry rules etc as it runs out soon.

Her father then demanded the passport which we declined and he is now threatening to phone the police.

I paid for the passport and if she had just told the truth to begin with I’d have given it to her but it’s the principal that she’s lied about it on my opinion.

The reason she’s moved to her fathers is because of her lying resulting in device confiscation so I feel getting her to lie about it just shows that he’s saying lying is okay.

So AIBU? I should have given them the passport straight away?
or
IANBU? Should have been truthful from
the beginning?

She was sexting people and you’re focusing on the lieing? Wrong. Very wrong move.

She needed support and help, not anger. Not being accused of being a liar. Being a young teen is very hard, the pressure to behave like that is huge. They need masses of guidance and support and openness in the home to talk about that stuff and help them through it, without anger or judgement. You going in about her being a liar just shows that you haven’t given her that.

It sounds like you've been through a lot.

You're very hung up on the lying- teens lie, let that go. You have really big issues here in your relationship with your DD, and protecting her from her father.