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Is it reasonable for an adult to say this to a kid?

64 replies

Goawaythen · 23/07/2023 14:47

In a play centre type place, rammed as it’s holidays. Kid trying to talk to adult and adult responds with ‘go away, I don’t want to talk to you.’

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BubziOwl · 23/07/2023 16:50

wutheringkites · 23/07/2023 15:00

Well it's a very rude way to speak to anyone, so no, to me it isn't reasonable.

But this is Mumsnet so there will be several posts that say it's totally fine and anyone who disagrees is a lazy parent who lets their kids hassle other people so they can play on their phone.

Completely agree

LakeTiticaca · 23/07/2023 17:06

wutheringkites · 23/07/2023 15:00

Well it's a very rude way to speak to anyone, so no, to me it isn't reasonable.

But this is Mumsnet so there will be several posts that say it's totally fine and anyone who disagrees is a lazy parent who lets their kids hassle other people so they can play on their phone.

There is certainly no shortage of lazy parents who are on their phones not observing what their children are doing. I take my grandchild to softplay sometimes and horrified at the amount of mothers who sit on their phones while tiny children (some just about walking) are roaming around unsupervised, wandering into the "big children " area with the big slides and climbing equipment. I hardly dare look sometimes

Gothambutnotahamster · 23/07/2023 17:07

BellaJuno · 23/07/2023 14:58

Context is everything here! If it’s their first interaction, it’s unnecessarily rude. If the kid has been bothering the adult for a while, I can see why an adult may snap and say this.

This! I'm not a fan of random kids though and hate when parents let their kids interrupt others.

NotBotheredAnymore · 23/07/2023 17:16

Depends if it was the first time they spoke to the child or if they had repeatedly tried to get the child to go away using different methods. Context is important here.

wincarwoo · 23/07/2023 17:58

People thinking this is ever ok are very very worrying.

Conkersinautumn · 23/07/2023 18:02

Sure, for kid haters. But what's a kid hater doing in a child's space? Apparently some kid haters are OK with weddings, restaurants, shops, gyms, swimming pools, football grounds being anti child so your average 🙄 at kids can at least get the f out of kids spaces?!
Its a place for kids, if you can't interact appropriately with kids, don't go!

literalviolence · 23/07/2023 18:14

Sounds a bit rude tbh but I'm also wondering why the parents/ guardians/ whoever was with the child wasn't stopping them from bugging a stranger. People don't have to talk to kids and it's entitled to expect it. Obviously a child often can't pick up on the signs that someone does not want to talk but that's where the parents should be stepping in and guiding their child away. It could have been said nicely so not necessarily a bad thing.

Thelonelygiraffe · 23/07/2023 18:26

More context required! Had kid been pestering the adult? Where was the kid's parent/career?

JenniferBarkley · 23/07/2023 19:03

It was rude, but if the kid was pestering a strange adult repeatedly then their parent (or whoever was minding them) was worse to allow it.

Thesearmsofmine · 23/07/2023 19:10

It’s very blunt but sometimes being subtle just doesn’t work with kids and frankly when I’m at soft play I want to sit and read my book or whatever. not entertaining random children.

So if kind hints didn’t work then it’s ok to be blunt.

YSoSirius · 23/07/2023 22:44

Conkersinautumn · 23/07/2023 18:02

Sure, for kid haters. But what's a kid hater doing in a child's space? Apparently some kid haters are OK with weddings, restaurants, shops, gyms, swimming pools, football grounds being anti child so your average 🙄 at kids can at least get the f out of kids spaces?!
Its a place for kids, if you can't interact appropriately with kids, don't go!

I go because I'm there with my child. I'm not a child hater but at the same time I don't want to spend my afternoon watching some random kid slide down the slide in 10 different positions shouting WATCH MEEEEEE when I'm there to spend time with my own.

All could be solved if other parents didn't let their kids mither other adults in these spaces.

orangeleavesinautumn · 23/07/2023 22:49

I think it is fine, but I don't understand your choices in the vote

XenoBitch · 23/07/2023 22:53

Context needed. If the kid kept pestering then the adult was well within their rights to tell them to go away. Sometimes you have to be blunt.

Hibiscrubbed · 24/07/2023 07:47

I say that to my toddler every time he tries being a little shit. 🤷‍♀️

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