To have cried in the hairdressers?

[TomAllenWife]

Omg I feel like such a tool and the worst thing is I don't cry, EVER! At anything.

I've only been to the hairdresser twice. I wanted a full head of bleach (naturally blonde anyway but bored of highlights)
First time was fine.
Went again 2 weeks ago and I felt it was a bit harsh so I've asked for it to be toned down a bit.

Anyway it went ginger and she was trying to make out it was blonde
I've been blonde my whole life I know what it is.
She stripped it and tried again but it's still ginger and I burst into tears.
And now I feel awful, I hate how it looks, I don't know what to do as we go on holiday tomorrow.
I can't even risk a box dye in the airport in case it gets even more ginger.

I know it's a first world problem but im always blonde, now im not and I hate it

I had this. Go to a different hairdresser. If they are any good, they will sort it out with a combination of more bleach to lift it and a toner to sort the brassiness.

This can be resolved, try not to worry. I go to Gielly Green in London, it's expensive but it's a million times worth it. They do my blonde highlights so well that I only need to go twice a year... so it actually works out cheaper than regularly going to an average London salon. Definitely go to an expert at a good salon, they will be able to sort.

I would take the time on your holiday to chuck a load of conditioner on it and let it rest. The sun may lighten it slightly anyway but giving your hair chance to breathe may make it easier for another hairdresser to fix when you get home.

If you really hate it have you got/can you get a big floppy hat? Good for avoiding uv rays and you will look lovely and summery and relaxed in photos.

Purple shampoo and conditioner, boots sells it, get it at the airport, it will neutralise the red tones

You need blue toner as blue is the opposite to orange. Purple is for use on yellow/brassy blonde hair as purple is the opposite to yellow.

Put a toner on it and don’t wash it with shampoos that strip too much.
my toner once washed away. The purple shampoo needs to be on the hair for ages to do anything, not just the 5 minutes it says in the back, and it’s pretty harsh.
amyeay, my hairdresser sorted this when I came back and she saw how fellow it was.

Agree with previous poster use a purple Shampoo leave it in for a good 5 minutes each time until your hair gets less coppery. It’s fixable OP

This doesn't make sense, if you're blonde to start with, your hair wouldn't have gone through orange to get to blonde, that only happens if you're colouring from brown due to how the melanin molecules are affected by bleach.

Also you can't "strip" bleach out and try again. Literally not how hair molecules work so that part didn't happen.

Either you're seeing more of a problem than is really there, or you're not naturally blonde. If you're over-egging the issue to yourself, try some purple shampoo. If you're not naturally blonde and your hair is genuinely orange, you'll need a proper colour correction but it would be a good idea after two bleaches in quick succession to let your hair rest for a bit first so going on holiday is probably the best thing you can do right now, even though you might not feel happy with the holiday pics.

Orange means that the hair hasn;t been lifted enough: It goes like this: Brown - orange - yellow - true blonde. It need to be lifted further but don't try and do it yourself and don't add a box dye or fiddle with it or it will go green or frazzled.
Why did you get your hair bleached if it's naturally blonde? It should have lifted to a lighter colour, not gone orange.

It did lift to a lighter colour initially but when she toned it down yesterday it went ginger

Yes @BiscuitsandPuffin I'm just making all this up for shits and giggles

Would you like pics for proof?

Hairdresser here, im trying to work out what happened, if she did a root touch up and it was lifted correctly , why did you think it needed toning down as too light? Bleach painted on is meant to be very light , she has obviously put a gold tone on to darken it, if you don't put gold in it can go green /khaki.
Purple shampoo wont help this problem , id let it fade in the sun and sort at your next appoinment.

Just to add, did they not put a toner on after the bleach was done?

I’m guessing she used wrong toner keep washing washing washing then see what your left with hopefully it will fade but I’d wait til after your holiday just wear hat x

If you went from highlights to full bleach, I'm guessing it's the non highlighted hair that is orange?

As others suggest, you can put a toner on it. You might need a mid/darker blond. It depends on how dark the orange is. Toners don't lighten your hair, so if it's lighter than the orange it won't do much. They don't necessarily always call them 'toners', you're really looking for something among the temporary colours.

Make sure it's temporary and not semi/demi permanent. They contain a lower strength bleach which lifts your hair to deposit the colour. That's why they last longer. You had highlights, now full bleach and maybe need an extra bleaching to get to your desired level. You don't want any more lightening in addition to that.

Also if you have a semi/demi that's a bit stubborn, the next round of bleaching will be fighting through that colour as well as the orange.

I'd recommend looking at some of Hair Buddah's videos on YouTube. He has lots of really helpful advice and tips if you're doing your hair at home.

Good luck 😄