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To have found this comment from partner quite hurtful?

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Selmaandpatty · 22/07/2023 09:18

I work part-time in what is considered an 'unskilled, women's job '. Don't want to say what industry, I do this part time alongside working in another role, despite having a degree and so on which I use for my main job, I do it because I enjoy the work and it suits me very well.
Anyway, the second job attracts some overseas workers on sponsorship.
There are things that seem obvious to us that these people have never done before, items that they've never used, food they've never cooked but this is just cultural.
We did some work training where these things that might seem basic to people like me were explained to them, and it did help them.
I was telling my partner about the training and explained how the trainer said he knew I was capable of xyz but it was mainly for the overseas workers due to cultural differences.
My partner said, "Doesn't it make you feel like your job is so rubbish/make you feel rubbish about yourself having the bar set so low/having such low standards?"
I found that rude and hurtful, and actually yes it did make me feel rubbish. That particular training wasn't for my benefit, but even if I were from overseas I wouldn't need to feel rubbish either.
I hate how people look down on certain jobs, because they are jobs that society really needs people to do. Not sure if I'm oversensitive. I told him that actually no, I'm very proud of my work.

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Eyesopenwideawake · 22/07/2023 09:20

Says far more about your partner than about your job.

Misspinkdiditinthelibrary · 22/07/2023 09:21

I am surprised that your partner's attitude didn't come to light when you applied for this job? 🤔

Maybe you should ask him why he seems to have issues with it now?

LaMaG · 22/07/2023 19:32

He may have meant it defending your ability rather than having a go at your job as such?

But yes I agree with you people have such notions about jobs and the hypocrisy is ridiculous. I thought that was 1 good thing that came out of covid, people realised that society would fall apart without the waste collectors and supermarket workers and hospital cleaners. I work PT in a low paying industry too through choice and love for the job. Most people respect it but sometimes I get a "but didn't you go to university...' comment which really pisses me off.

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