To tell my boss I'm not enjoying my job while I'm on probation?

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NC for obvious reasons.

I started a new job and I've been struggling with some parts of it, because I feel uncomfortable doing it and it makes me nervous.

As a result I've not been motivated and my boss is picking up on it. So much so he asked me about it and I told him I'm not sure long term if it's right for me and I have been a bit lax with it.

He also said I've been quiet and seem disconnected and I admitted I had.

I'm halfway through probation should I expect to probably be sacked?

He asked if I need support in anything I said apart from one area which we know is a development area - no. Because I don't know what I need support with as it's not that I'm struggling it's more just not sure it's right for me.

Should I just leave??

You can fix that immediately. But I’d resign now if you aren’t willing.

You can't/won't do half the role and you say there's nothing they can do to help you with that aspect. You're not going to pass probation unless he's a very strange manager. Start looking for something else that's more to your liking.

It doesn't sound like the job for you. You're struggling and if you can't feel enthusiastic in the first few months, then I doubt it's going to happen.

Agreed, it's a probation period for you and them. Honestly it sounds like the role isn't the right fit so just say so? Can you go back to your old job?

I get you dont want to be outing but is this a pure office job and the bit that make makes you uncomfortable is a pivot table or is the bit that makes you uncomfortable something to do with the public (flyering / bikini waxing / personal care / cold calling customers) or morally dubious or what?

Yes, you should leave asap. You hate the job!

Watching as I'm in a similar position- I'm applying for other jobs but in the mean time it's hard to pretend to be keen.

You need to find another job and go.

I've mentored a student who was like that, polite and did everything I asked but his entire vibe made it clear that he wasn't enjoying it and there was no enthusiasm. I had some super interesting stuff happen a few times and asked him if wanted to come watch or help and he would rather just sit at the desk. It drove me insane because when I was a student I would have loved to have the opportunities he was having and not bothering with. It made him appear really ungrateful for all the work I was putting in to support his learning.

There will be someone who would want the job you have and can't get the opportunity. There will also be a job for you to thrive at, life is too short to spent 40 hours a week somewhere you are miserable.

I can’t see any reason why you would stay? You don’t like it, you’re not motivated, it’s been picked up on. It’s not a good fit for any of you, seems.

Look elsewhere while you’re still on probation and everyone will be happier.

Several things in this.

If you are not happy with the job, you should look for another. Better to have a job to go to.

It is better not to fail probation as this can go on a reference. Personally, I would try extra hard for the next 3 months in order to avoid this.if there is a notice period in your contract though, it may still apply so worth checking that you don't have to give notice during or at the end of your probation period.

Short term roles are not appealing to future employers on a CV so completing your probation but deciding to leave is a better story than failing it.

Good luck, we spend so much time at work, it's better if you can find one you enjoy. That's the holy grail to an extent though.

As above it depends what it is. If it's "talking to clients on the phone" then you might need to try and overcome this, or your next role will need to be a total change which can be harder to get. If it's specicially chasing payment for invoices or something that's different.

Well they may let you go because your manager has picked up on the fact that things aren't right, rather than what you said.

Even if you don't like it, you still need to be putting in 100% as they are paying you to do so!

I would not be happy with a negative and unmotivated employee there months in and your boss sounds like they are being nice about it.

What do you mean by not being comfortable doing part of the role, I honestly do not understand what you mean in this context. Do you mean you don’t understand it and hence are uncomfortable because you might make a mistake or do you mean you are uncomfortable for example in an ethical way?

Also there is no need to use emotive language such as about being “sacked”. You might have your contract terminated if it isn’t seen to be working out, which it isn’t. So truly, I think you should just start looking and leave and try to find a role you can muster up some enthusiasm for.

Why not find a job that makes you happier?

Look for another job.

I can tell you having moved jobs quite a lot into roles where I had experience, I was always miserable the first 6 months and had buyer's remorse big time. After a year, you start to settle in and find your level emotionally. So I give myself a year and if after that, I am still deeply unhappy, start looking with a view to leave after 2 years.

In all this time, you have play the game and fake enthusiasm and interest. In other words, fake it till you make it. If you cannot even summon up the energy to do this, then well maybe you are in the wrong job or you are the wrong personality to move jobs.

I am not sure whether you have moved jobs before but if not, it is a big culture shock to do so. So give yourself some time. Butyou have to give yourself and the company a chance.

As a manager, I don't want a misery guts in my team. If you cannot even summon up a smile and act all cool and polite all the time, it will be noticed. And it has been. Even if your performance passes probation, I will want to know what is eating you before confirming you passed.

Not sure if you got the job through a recruitment agent. If you do not stay beyond 6 months for whatever reason, the recruitment agent may have to pay back the recruitment fee to the company. That is one reason why a quick break if it is not working out is better for the company and the employee.

Just something to consider.

Honestly, OP, on the basis of what you've said here, I would probably be looking to fail you on your probation. Obviously, I don't know all of the facts, but you've said yourself that you don't think it's the right fit for you and you're struggling to stay motivated.

There is no shame in discovering that a particular job isn't right for you. In your situation, I would be looking for another non pronto and planning my exit strategy.

I had a job like this a while ago. I found some parts I felt a bit unsafe and uncomfortable doing and didn't feel there was enough support in those areas. Really it just didn't fit my personality or values.

I worked hard and tried to be as thorough as possible while I was there (because never leave anywhere on a bad note) and in the meantime I was actively looking for another job. I left after 6 months and skipped out the door and I love my current job. It's ok for a job not to be for you, but I wouldn't say that and I certainly wouldn't let it affect your performance until you get something else lined up.

This.