DH and I are in our 30's, married for 6 years and have a newborn.
DH has his own company and works 5 or 6 days a week.
I don't want to drip feed so DH has his own company and does his own quotes and invoices etc, he used to work 6-7 days a week but slowed down when our baby was born to spend time with us. He does 5 days sometimes the odd Saturday too.
He is tired from working, I'm tired from being parent 99% of the time. We are now butting heads and it's got into a stupid "I have more reason to be tired" battle now so I've come away and will stop before it becomes stupid and even more petty.
Baby has CMPA, a heart murmur and bad reflux, I sleep on the sofa 5 nights a week with her so he can sleep for work and he has her 2 nights so I can get a full night sleep.
I do all of the laundry, housework, life admin, dog walking, appointments for baby (been lots lately due to the above) and vets for our dog, my whole week consists of sleeping on the sofa, broken sleep, walking dog with baby, laundry, cleaning, I go to baby group once a week and feeding/changing nappies.
He says things like "I don't understand how you haven't got an hour to sit down and watch tv or do something for you" which get my back up. I don't know how the day goes so fast but it does, she does her last sleep 4-7 then I'm up for another bottle, sit with her upright for half hour, she naps and I do laundry/sterilising/hoovering or whatever needs doing. She wakes for another bottle, after that bottle I put her and our dog in the car and drive to the nearest dog walking spot, walk for an hour at least, home and we play for a bit with her sensory stuff until she's tired and has another bottle. She naps again and this is my opportunity to hang washing to dry/clean toilet/get to the shop to do food shop or anything else that needs doing and then get dinner sorted. He comes home and after dinner, I have a bath with her, then it's bottle, playing, nappy and bed until she has her next feed.
I've asked him why all of a sudden the last few weeks he's been so unhelpful, he always used to take the bins out and doesn't even do that now, he has breakfast and leaves his dirty bowl and mug in sink when dishwasher is emptied every night, doesn't let the dog out for a wee when I'm sleeping (says he forgot) so more often than not I'm woken up by dog scratching door before baby has woke for feeding.
I'm so so tired from broken sleep and doing all of the listed above, I tried to explain to him that looking after our DD and taking care of the house and dog is also a full time job except I don't get to take a lunch break or an hour out for myself. I'm on shift 23 hours a day, 1 hour I get to myself probably in total out of every 24 hour period.
I'm beginning to resent him which I never wanted to happen, he's usually and always has been a brilliant husband and we've always felt like a team but the past few weeks I feel like he's just opted out and he can because he's Dad. He's got 2 nights away with his friends also coming up next month. He just keeps saying we've got a holiday to look forward to. As if going away in October is going to make me any less tired now.
I'm sorry this is so long and if you're still reading, thank you 😂 I'm just worn out, emotionally drained and lonely. I love DD more than anything and feel bad for even moaning 😢