My grandparents, both still alive are 91 and 93 respectively, my grandad owned a very successful business, he sold it in the late 90s, invested the profits etc.
They have two kids, my dad and my aunt, I am an only child and my aunt also only had one child.
Both my cousin and were lucky to have very fortunate childhoods, private education, grandparents bought both my aunt and my dad a house each etc.
My dad and aunt both had modest careers, they weren't privately educated themselves, my dad certainly couldn't give me what his parents did him.
My grandparents and I fell out about 15 years ago, my dad and mum were divorcing and the way the spoke of my mum was appalling. Reconnected about 10 years ago, they are in a lovely care home, I visit several times a year with my children.
My cousin and I also lost touch, no fall out, she lives in London, I in Nottingham, we just weren't close. We got married within a year of one and other and went to the others wedding, but that was about it.
Last weekend I was in London for a wedding, I sent her a message and she invited me over, she has a 4 and 6 year old, I have a 5 and 6 year old, so the kids could play etc.
Her house is gorgeous, lovely part of London, large 5 bed. Her husband works in investment research so likely to make a decent amount, she works part-time in an office role (not sure exactly but likely to make a decent amount too). My husband can be a nosey pig, so when we left he looked Zoopla to see how much their house cost, 3 Million!! I know my aunt couldn't have contributed much, I assumed it was his family, didn't think much more of it, just lucky buggers!!
Was talking to my dad today and he informed me, my grandparents had purchased them the house as a wedding gift!!! They got married just as they moved into care and sold their own house, I had no idea!!
I'm now really hurting, I know we had a falling out but I thought we made up and all was put behind us!! I'm also just pissed off they treated us so differently, we live in a nice area, and a house of similar size here would be about a third of that!!
I knew they had contributed more to their wedding than ours (they got married in London so just more expensive), and this didn't bother me, but a £3,000,000 house vs nothing seems so so cruel.
I think my cousin was always preferred, she was seen as prettier, smarter, more likeable etc. by my grandparents, they also just didn't like my mum so I probably took some of that dislike on too.
I won't say anything to them as frankly I don't want to fall out but I'm so hurt. It isn't just the house, by living mortgage free, my cousin can work part-time, be more present for her children, they attend a lovely prep school, have peace of mind that they will never be left struggling to pay the mortgage or homeless.
AIBU to be hurt and pissed off?