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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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104 replies

WhimsicalPig · 20/07/2023 16:30

I feel awful all the time. Physically, mentally. I’ve had a huge range of bloods done twice and GPS say they can’t find anything so that’s the end of it all. But I feel exhausted all the time, I get headrushes a lot. My brain is constantly foggy. And when I say exhausted, I don’t mean really tired, I mean I get dizzy with exhaustion. I could lay down in the cold and rain in The road and sleep. It’s dangerous for me to drive a car. Doctors have put me on sertraline but this has neither changed the situation nor has it made it worse. I am mum to a two year old but have two days a week away from them whilst I work in a job I do enjoy, or would if my brain wasn’t so fogged up I could think properly

Its affecting my physically and mental health. I can’t run more than a few metres without being knackered and out of breath. My skin has become really full, grey and wrinkly. My hair has gone dry. I want to eat junk food all the time, but I actually have a good diet with lots of veg and whole grains. Don’t eat much meat but some chicken, have other protein though. I take a multivitamin, omega fats and a probiotic. I also have powdered things like collagen and turmeric which I have in smoothies a few times a week. I eat lots and lots of nuts and seeds. But my face is so hideous, I had my hair cut today and I couldn’t even look in the mirror I hate it so much. I look about ten years older than I am. My teeth are hurting and going yellow, but my dentist said they were healthy last time I saw him but they look terrible.

I have been feeling awful for months on end. It’s just constant and the GPS no longer care. They’ve got me some mental health meds and on the waiting list for counselling and see you later, but that doesn’t change the physical issues I’m having and the medication hasn’t changed the physical issues. I can’t sleep even though I’m beyond shattered, like this is a tiredness like nothing else. I’m not overweight, I’m 8.5 stones at 5’5”. I can’t afford to go private, nor can I afford to get my teeth whitened or have Botox before anyone says anything. And I have got a good skincare routine going with spf and retinol etc. I feel like something is really wrong but because it isn’t showing up in blood tests doctors don’t care. I worry with the breath loss, headrushes etc it’s my heart but no other symptoms. I just don’t know where to turn, I feel alone. My body is clearly screaming at me something is up but I don’t know what it is. I’m scared.

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Sauvblanctime · 20/07/2023 16:31

Long covid?

Astrak · 20/07/2023 16:34

Myalgic encephalitis?

WhimsicalPig · 20/07/2023 16:35

Sauvblanctime · 20/07/2023 16:31

Long covid?

This has crossed my mind…

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Usernamenotfound263 · 20/07/2023 16:35

What vitamin and mineral deficiencies have they checked for?

WhimsicalPig · 20/07/2023 16:35

Astrak · 20/07/2023 16:34

Myalgic encephalitis?

I’ll look into this

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FreyafromLondon · 20/07/2023 16:35

I could have wrote this post OP. The GPs don't care if bloods come back okay.
I think I'm peri but doctors won't even look at HRT because I'm only 44.
I can't afford private either. It's either go private or put up and shut up.
I hope you start to feel much better soon

FreyafromLondon · 20/07/2023 16:36

I feel so spaced out all of the time as well. Like a derealisation feeling

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 20/07/2023 16:37

Sertraline made me exhausted and l couldn’t sleep on it.

WhimsicalPig · 20/07/2023 16:41

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 20/07/2023 16:37

Sertraline made me exhausted and l couldn’t sleep on it.

This started about a year before the sertraline..

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allthebeautifulflowers · 20/07/2023 16:44

This sounds an awful lot like perimenopause it possibly long covid or chronic fatigue syndrome. I'm sorry you feel so bad. GPs aren't great with any of these conditions, so it's worth reading around.

Theamofm · 20/07/2023 16:46

Lymes disease? Long covid? Are you on the pill, could it be that?

No advice but you know your body keep on at your doctor. I made my doctor test me for Lymes disease, as its not something they even consider as a normal test. Ask them.

tattygrl · 20/07/2023 16:55

Persist, persist, persist with the GP. Ask for referrals to consultants and specialists. The only way to get taken seriously by the medical world these days is to persist, which is bloody hard when you're not 100%. But that's what you've got to do.

Carouselfish · 20/07/2023 17:03

Re. Feeling you look awful. I would suggest it's the sleep deprivation from being mum to a 2 year old. Not having an unbroken night. Have you tried looking at a fit bit to see quality of sleep?
Also, do you have low blood pressure? I do and am quite lethargic with it. When at the gym, my heart rate goes steaming into the danger zone with little effort, I have to really pace myself with regards to that.

Things that have helped me. Earlier nights, drinking a lot more water.
I still do feel like shit though, so it's not a solution, just a help. Am early 40s too.

LMNT · 20/07/2023 17:09

Sounds like gluten intolerance.

Cut out all cereals and grains for a month and see if it improves.

LatteLady · 20/07/2023 17:11

I wonder if you are peri-menopausal. Check when your mother and aunts went through the change. The tiredness, brain fog and dental issues are all classic issues, ask for a blood test to rule it out.

Aquamarine1029 · 20/07/2023 17:15

FreyafromLondon · 20/07/2023 16:35

I could have wrote this post OP. The GPs don't care if bloods come back okay.
I think I'm peri but doctors won't even look at HRT because I'm only 44.
I can't afford private either. It's either go private or put up and shut up.
I hope you start to feel much better soon

You're 44, it's Peri. Blood tests are not used to diagnose peri-menopause. Arm yourself with the NICE guidelines and march back to your gp.

LaMaG · 20/07/2023 17:16

I'm presuming you got thyroid checked? Should be included in full blood check. I'm underactive and had a lot of what you describe before I was first diagnosed.

WhimsicalPig · 20/07/2023 17:26

I have had thyroid checked, I’ve had progesterone, I’ve had oestrogen, they’ve done all the bloods they can think of and all fine. They’ve told me I’m not peri menopausal but I have said a few times I think I am, I haven’t had a period for nearly 3 years since my last DC was born but they’ve said it’s related to that.

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inthehammock · 20/07/2023 19:43

Have they discussed rheumatology? The total exhaustion, aches and brain fog are how someone I know became very unwell with CFS. And it's a diagnosis of exclusion, which seems where you're heading. I wonder if you should ask for a rheumatology referral

WhimsicalPig · 20/07/2023 19:56

What is CFS?

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YukoandHiro · 20/07/2023 19:57

Are you taking iron supplements whatever the blood results say? I get dizzy when mine is going low.

Jongleterre · 20/07/2023 19:59

Lead toxicity/poisoning.

WhimsicalPig · 20/07/2023 20:02

YukoandHiro · 20/07/2023 19:57

Are you taking iron supplements whatever the blood results say? I get dizzy when mine is going low.

I’m taking a multivitamin which has iron in, I’ve been on it for nearly a month and nothing so far!

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WhimsicalPig · 20/07/2023 20:04

Jongleterre · 20/07/2023 19:59

Lead toxicity/poisoning.

I don’t have bowel issues or headaches or stomach pains and no one else in my family is feeling like me.

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Pinkflamingopants · 20/07/2023 20:04

When did you have the COVID vaccine?