Or was my DD re her birthday

[Peddlefaster]

I’ve always made a deal of the kids birthdays, decorate kitchen, present, birthday box with bits, favourite breakfast etc.
Eldest DD 15 has a tendency to be a bit of a spoilt madam and birthdays seem to bring out the worst - ‘ hope I get good things in my birthday box ‘, ‘better not be things I don’t like’ etc. I’ve corrected her on this behaviour but alas it continues.

So she turned 15 yesterday and we were travelling back from a 3 week holiday. Not ideal but that’s just how the flights landed and at 15 I really don’t see the big deal. She got a takeaway, cake, gift she wanted and birthday box but in the evening and knew this was coming.

She behaved appallingly in the airport and basically focused all this anger at me - ‘ you’re being mean on my birthday etc etc’

Was i unreasonable to basically just dial in the cake and celebration because of this behaviour. As an aside I’ve a virus which she knows about so knew I wasn’t at my best.

Was her Dad with you?

What does he think of her behaviour?

YANBU.

I disagree with PPs, however, who feel that this is because you've always made a big deal of birthdays. My mum always made big deals of our birthdays and Christmas, but that didn't influence me to be demanding or spoilt (not saying I am/was perfect!! I had plenty of my own issues 😂). It's perfectly fine to create special times for your kids. I expect the spoilt behaviour is largely linked to teenagehood, and her own personal "flawed" way of expressing her less-than-best sides.