I have been ‘best’ friends with a woman for years. We met at school.
Two years ago, she had a big birthday. I (with the help of her husband) organised her a birthday weekend away, with a large group of friends. I didn’t know some of the other people she was good friends with at that time, but managed to get their numbers to invite them to the weekend via her partner. This is what she wanted to do to celebrate her birthday and she asked me to help organise it but I ended up doing it all.
One of her friend, Z, was kind enough to message me on the lead up to the weekend and offered help/to make decorations/a cake etc. We ended up talking quite a bit, even though we’d never met. And then of course, we met at the weekend away, got on really well. Realised we live half an hour away from each other. Had lots of similar interests. We’ve continued to meet up regularly ever since the weekend away.
My ‘best’ friend seemed to have no issue with us becoming friends, although I trod carefully as I didn’t want to over do it. I always like she could suddenly have a problem with it…
Fast forward to now. ‘Best’ friend and Z have fallen out. I don’t actually think Z knows they’ve fallen out - all I know is best friend now hates Z. I think the reason they fell out was ridiculous and childish - but it’s none of my business.
I had my best friend verbally attack me (she phoned me whilst I was out for my dads birthday - which she knew I was at!) for still being friends with Z a few days ago. She said I am a terrible friend and not supportive and said quite a lot of other nasty things. I stayed calm, I think I was a bit taken back with her having a go at me. So now I’ve backed off the both of them. I cannot be bothered with what feels like high school drama!
AIBU to think I can still be friends with both of them and I shouldn’t have to chose?! Or should I be siding with my long term best friend?