Men and housework

[CollagenQueen]

I do most of the housework. I don’t mind , I’m at home more than DH, as I wfh. We have friends coming for lunch tomorrow. DH says he will clean the bathrooms. I say I will do it (I don’t think he does it well). But he insists. Fine. We are in a 3 storey house. The only bathroom that will get used tomorrow is the one on the ground floor, as we will be sitting in the garden. I go in to that loo later in the day and see it hasn’t been cleaned at all. I query this. He says he’s done the other two. I ask why, when the one that needed cleaning the most was the ground floor one. He says he will sort it. He’s gone to do a shift now and upon looking at the other two bathrooms none have been cleaned, even though he says they have. I’d say he’s run a cloth over the sinks at best. Toilets aren’t clean. Bath in main bathroom is dusty. Shelves are dusty. Towels haven’t been changed for fresh. Floors haven’t been cleaned. I will have to do it in the morning, but I just don’t get this? I’m fairness he’s shopped for the visit and made the food for them coming. He’s not useless. But just WHY say you’ve done it when you’ve not?

I think my husband and myself have different levels of acceptable cleanliness.

My DH does his usual routine of vacuuming the bathrooms & bedrooms but he doesn’t dust ever which is very annoying, men don’t see dust

I used to use the excuse of men "not seeing" things that need doing. But when you come to think of it there's absolutely nothing wrong with their vision. They see it the same as you, it just doesn't register with them as they don't think it's their responsibility.

Obviously this is a massive generalisation but seems very common.

Sometimes it's the other way, DW only uses the vacuum if family visit, a couple times a year, never dusts or empties vacuum. DH does that.

I do all of the emulsion painting in our house, absolutely love it, years of experience. So, one time DP say he will paint he downstairs toilet while he was off work between jobs. It was change of colour to a lighter shade and with those years of experience and based on volume of paint used up, I knew he only did one coat. He plainly denied it, saying it was two. It was so patchy, I could laugh but he was adamant. Anyway, I have done it over but years later I can’t still understand WTF is wrong with men and housework.