Outside perspective needed
My husband is a lovely, laid back, hard working man and a hands on father to our kids, our daughter and my older children who he has been dad to for many years.
His family however. They would argue black was white, everything is an issue with them, if we go on holiday it's constant digs about going abroad but not coming to visit them, (we live in Wales they live in Edinburgh). We recently got married, his mother complained about everything yet they didn't so much as send a card, in actual fact his mum wore white to our wedding too. Any interactions with them on the phone is met with constant gripes, if daughter doesn't want to speak to them they say things like 'oh is mummy keeping you away from us'. They make no effort to visit us despite being retired, we both work shifts and the kids are in school except youngest so we are hardly sat twiddling our thumbs. I don't even know my question really tbh, just how do people deal with in laws who really aren't there type of people, I feel bad for my husband because I know he is embarrassed, he does call them out in their crap too