MIL

[Minkie01]

Hi,
Just wondered if I'm being unreasonable. My sons 4th birthday was a couple of months ago, mother in law gave him a gift (string of lights). Then just asked my husband does he use them?, if not I'll have them back for her other grandson!. I think this is rude, husband doesn't agree. Should i say something next time i see her?.

Thanks.

Just say we are using them.
Yes I think she's rude and a bit dense clearly.
But you can't fix that. And this is not the hill to die on.
So give your husband an odd look. Say no and carry on.

Unless you want to get rid of them in which case give them to her.

Weird and rude. string of lights? Id give them back and say don't give to other grandson as they are a safety hazard to children (strangulation).
Might make her actually use her brain in the future.

How very odd. I wouldn’t say anything though. Doesn’t seem worth creating an argument over - is she maybe looking for an argument or is she always a little odd?

anyway, as PP said I would just say that he uses them. Unless you want to get rid, then give them back and be happy they are gone! I would be very wary of accepting gifts off her in future though in case she asked for it back. Odd.

Does she have a bit of a history of favouring this other grandson by any chance?

If he doesn't use them, say she can have them back if she gets your DS a replacement present.

Thanks for your replies. My husband said i was overreacting!. Yes i thought it was an odd gift too, but then again she is odd. Usually if you say something/disagree with her she falls out with you.

MILs are not worth the time nor the stress.. it is very odd, but not worth causing a potential issue with her about. It's best to keep things as sweet as you can to avoid unnecessary conflict. Especially if you already know she's a bit weird in her ways x