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AIBU?

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To think he over reacted?

16 replies

narwhaleunicorn · 19/07/2023 17:14

DS came home with a brilliant school report. He got 40/40 in his phonics exam and a glowing report.
I text my partner and told him, he said he would read it when he got home. In the meantime I put how proud I was on Facebook, a photo of only the first few lines and his 40/40 results.
He kicked off saying he's pissed off it was on Facebook before he read it.
It wasn't the full report, I don't understand why he's so angry at me?

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ForeverFriendsAndPierrot · 19/07/2023 17:17

You are opening up a conversation between family/friends

I can see why he's pissed if if that takes off before he has a chance to even read it!

Gerrataere · 19/07/2023 17:19

Tbh this seems a bit something of nothing. And a bit of a desperate need to brag…

changeyerheadworzel · 19/07/2023 17:50

Nothing good ever comes of boasting, especially on FB.

Marblessolveeverything · 19/07/2023 17:52

I would not be happy having my child's report on Facebook nor being seen before a parent.

Why share something that is your child's progress. I appreciate you're proud but the only person who needs to hear that is your son.

electriclight · 19/07/2023 17:53

I wouldn't have posted it for several reasons - an awful, cringey brag, upsetting to any friends whose dc didn't get 40/40, you have a lot of school years ahead of you, your dp hadn't seen it yet. Was he annoyed that he hadn't read it yet, or that it was all over fb? Are you the type who posts everything on sm? Because that can get wearing tbh.

Readyplayerthr33 · 19/07/2023 17:54

Why would you post his report on Facebook?
My kid completed the primary school maths curriculum at the end of primary 4. He started high school maths in primary 5. I didn’t post it all over Facebook. Why would you post a phonics result on Facebook?

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narwhaleunicorn · 19/07/2023 17:55

He was mad that he hadn't seen it before I posted about it.
When he got home he then took photos of it and posted it himself..
I don't speak to any of his friends or family so I only have my side on Facebook

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Readyplayerthr33 · 19/07/2023 17:58

But it’s a phonics test. Why would you post that like it’s an achievement? It’s phonics. Kids with speech impediments won’t get 40/40 but it doesn’t make them any less smart than your kid. They’re just as capable.

Some things are absolutely an achievement but phonics aren’t.

FarmGirl78 · 19/07/2023 17:58

But surely you'd tell proud Grandparents/Aunties/Uncles over the phone? Feeling the need to tell your friends is just weird. It'll only ever be considered a brag. Trust me, your friends don't care about your child's phonics results.

namechange1986 · 19/07/2023 17:59

I find posting it on Facebook at all distasteful.

vodkaredbullgirl · 19/07/2023 18:01

Should have waited till he got home.

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narwhaleunicorn · 19/07/2023 18:01

They probably don't.. but I don't care about their new house extensions or sunny holidays either that get posted on Facebook.
If they don't like it they can scroll or delete me.
We've had a rough few years and my little boy had to move schools due to being bullied at school, so of course I'm proud of a good school report from him new school and that he's doing so well.

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neilyoungismyhero · 19/07/2023 18:02

My grandson gets a little miffed when my daughter shares his results which are good on the family whattsap page.

WhatADrabCarpet · 19/07/2023 18:15

You really shouldn't have posted it before your partner had a chance to look at it.

FB really isn't your friend.

PowerBMI · 19/07/2023 18:18

It didn’t really need to on FB before he read it. It could have been put on later.

electriclight · 19/07/2023 20:21

It's really daft to brag about stuff like your kid's achievement in things that are really trivial in the scheme of things. It just means people are ready to snigger when he comes a cropper, as he inevitably will. Just be quietly proud. Put it in your family Whatsapp group or call the relatives. I really don't know why parents want to set their kids up like this.

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