Do you wait outside if someone is giving you a lift?

[ettieb]

If someone is kind enough to offer me a lift I always wait outside so they don't have to get out their car. However when I am giving someone a lift I have to find a parking space and go and get them... even though I text when I'm leaving so they know when I'm getting there. I find this really inconsiderate. One friend took the biscuit recently when I arrived to collect her... she said she was waiting for her washing machine to finish and had to hang out her washing before we left. Am I a grumpy old control freak or is this not reasonable? Also lateness in general.. obviously everyone is running behind sometimes.. but I'm sure we all know the friends that are consistently late.... it is rude... implying that my time is less important than theirs...grrrr!

I live in a cul de sac so I generally wander up to the corner so they don't have to turn round.

I'm ready to go when they get to me, but I don't wait outside. On the very rare occasion I'm running late then I'll send an incredibly apologetic text that I'll just be 2 minutes!!!! or whatever. I'd never expect anyone to come and have to fetch me.

If my friend had said they were waiting for the washing machine to finish and wanted to hang out the washing I'd have driven off.
I'm notorious for being late but if someone is picking me up I'd be waiting outside for them so they could pull up and drive off.

Definitely they should be waiting for you, not the other way round. Tell them to be outside or in their doorway. If they want a lift it's your rules. I got my colleague to walk a few hundred yards to a convenient spot for me, so I wasn't diverting from my normal route.

Your friends are rude and you are inexplicably tolerating it.

Not normal.

I am waiting and ready at my door from where I can see someone arrive at my gate.

I’d wait inside and watch from the window, but I do have a driveway so no parking issues. If there wasn’t a drive I would wait outside.

I'd never consider hanging around outside to wait for a lift unless I'd arranged to be picked up on the main road or something.

I just tell people to pull in (there's always loads of parking) and drop call me.

I wait outside because parking is very limited, inside if I know they want to park and come in. If they are more than 15 minutes late I text to see if they are en route.

I also wait inside but watch out of the window. Friends do the same when I collect them, but I also tend to share my live location with them via WhatsApp so they can see exactly how close I am. If they didn't come out, I'd drop them a text from the car or call. I wouldn't be parking up the road and walking to knock for them - I agree with a PP that this is an unnecessary choice you are making.

I’d keep an eye out for you. If I lived somewhere v busy I’d wait outside though.

Wait outside or hover by window is raining and out as quick as I can be when I see their car and in reverse of me driving the same thing happens for a friend I pick up

Either wait outside or I'm completely ready to go and waiting for them to pull up.

I've given lifts now to a few people who've thought it was ok to keep me waiting for no good reason other than lack of consideration for others. One was 20 minutes and then we both ended up being late (after I had got up earlier so I could go way out of my way to collect them) for a work event. I've never given someone like this a lift a second time though.

They've also also never turned out to be someone I would like to maintain a friendship with for other reasons.

Just text when you are leaving and say you 'll be there in 5 mins so keep an eye out to save you parking/coming in and you can get to where you are going on tkme/early/sharp.