Is it ok to leave baby in cot like this?

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ds 9 months used to go straight to sleep when we put him down. Almost overnight he stopped this. For the last week he will lie awake in the cot for 40 mins before falling asleep. He doesn’t usually cry at all, if he begins to cry I go in, hold him for a minute or so, he’s fine, then back to lounging round awake in the cot? He’s not going to bed too early or anything like that. No reason why he wouldn’t be tired either. Is it ok to get on with the evening? First time mum and worried.

Sounds absolutely fine. He seems happy to be in his cot and it’s good to encourage good habits early on.

Yes totally fine, he’s happy on his own and lets you know if he’s not. It’s a good thing!

Sounds great. It’s very common for babies to cry when left alone in the cot, so if he’s quite chilled about it and then goes to sleep himself, that’s a win! If he’s distressed about it, he’ll let you know.

Yes, it's fine. He's just amusing himself for a bit before he drops off.

I don't go to sleep immediately when I get into bed, I usually faff about on my phone/go over things in my head/think about today's events or future events.

I work in a nursery and some of the babies take a little while to drift off. It's normal, and your ds sounds happy so try not to worry.

He's fine, just enjoying some chill time before he goes to sleep! Mine used to do the same. He lets you know when he needs you so honestly I wouldn't worry about it.

Winning 👍🏻.

He's safe and happy, all good :) DS used to do the same and I also felt conflicted at first about whether to leave him to it (whilst listening out) but did leave him to it. Obviously went up if he got upset but he was more than happy to babble away to himself for a bit before drifting off and practicing new skills he'd picked up during the day.

Yes sounds perfect, hes winding down and relaxing. Hes clearly not anxious or needing anything more than you have done for him. X

Normal to need a bit of a wind down in bed before falling asleep, I know I don’t fall asleep the second my head hits the pillow so why should a baby be any different? He’d let you know if he was unhappy. Leave him be and don’t overthink it.

Sounds great.

You forgot to say what you're worried about though OP?

Are you scared he can climb out, or is it something else?

Thank you. I’m just so anxious, my partner doesn’t help really at all and so I don’t have his opinion. I just worry ds isn’t happy or doesn’t know I’m around if you see what I mean? Why he wasn’t crying. Probably sounds silly, I just worry.

God yes. Keep that routine up. They don't know any different. Don't introduce any other option now.
Ours went in the cot and tbh I've no idea what they did because i pulled the door to and left.
I think we encouraged reliance on comforters too around this time.

Mine always used to burble, and crawl about and bang their feet before dozing off

Mine has done that from very young. 14 months now and still does it. She just chills out a bit babbles to herself, stands up sits down and then drops off.

Sounds great, if baby was upset he would cry

He's totally fine, and don't mess it up by interfering. 😊

He will let you know if he needs you.

Just to add to my previous post and in response to this. If babies are unhappy they will cry. Mine certainly does! She just seems to love the security of her cot and her little room.

I used to add a cloth book or a ragdoll to the cot to "talk" to at about that age .

DD often does what we call 'rolling round like a loon!' Before she goes to sleep- she is quite happy and if we went in she would just get unsettled and take longer to go to sleep than she does like this.
Its great if they are happy in the cot- dd plays happily in hers while I have a shower and get dressed in the morning- it makes life so much easier

@Cuwins oh I wish I was confident enough to do this… I would be scared he would start to cry! Can’t remember the last time I showered in the morning!

Sounds great op. Don't worry at all, he'll soon let you know if he isn't happy.
2 of my 3 did this, the other one I still have to be with until he goes to sleep and he's 5.
I know which bedtime routine I prefer!

We built it up slowly- started at just a couple of mins. You could start with doing it while you get dressed- so you can pop straight in if he does cry.
Sometimes DD does have a bit of a whinge but it's normally over in a few seconds and she goes back to playing.
I make it fun and as different as possible to bedtime. I tell her 'cot time'- often when I say that she toddles off to her cot herself. I put her CD player on with a kids CD, leave the curtains open and lights on if needed so it's obviously not sleep time. Put a couple of toys ( you could even have some you save specially for that so there is novelty) and a book or 2 in the cot, leave the door open so it's all different to sleep time.
I do make sure I shut my bedroom door as if she sees me she wants to get out straight away.
It buys me about 10-15mins so not ages but enough for a quick shower and to get dressed. Sometimes I have to go and get her while I finish getting dressed but sometimes she is fine the whole time.

Although I have to say I don't worry if she is crying for a couple of mins as long as she isn't hysterical- it won't do her any harm.
However she rarely does and if she does it is normally only for a few seconds then something distracts her and she is back to playing.

Yes, my baby cries to be left alone cot sometimes.. we have open lounge lounge, so think she finds it overstimulating, with telly, cooking going on then toys. She has a nice regroup in her cot relaxes then sometimes nods off or I'll pick her up again :)