I know I am, I'm a total bitch who has no patience for her own mother

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Does anyone else have a mother they just constantly lose their patience with?

It doesn't seem to matter what we talk about, she gets under my skin. I'm like a teenager.

I get so, so annoyed because she just never listens. She's just told me that when our baby is born she will be parking her campervan on our drive because there won't be room for her to stay. We have 2 spare rooms ffs! I had a conversation with her last week about the fact that one room will be a nursery and the other room with be a guest room/office.

Sorry, doubt anyone cares very much about this or will reply, but I had to get it out.

Okay, thanks for apology. I really wasn't trying to stir it up. I think it is very challenging and hope you can work it out with her so you don't feel ridden with guilt.

Under that scenario...[similar to mine]...a baby is the ultimate outlet for advice giving,etc.

you do have the right attitude re coping vs reacting- took me years to understand that. but is likely to require the patience of a saint...sorry! .

I will be watching this thread with interest, as I have exactly the same problem as OP. My mother gets on my nerves whenever we talk, which is thankfully not that often since we live in different countries. Still, her visits are torture. I have to find a way to tolerate/ignore her.

The problem is that in her head, I am still a child who can't be trusted to make decisions and can be ignored at will. (I am 37 this year). When I tell her not to bring something (invariably ugly/huge/etc) to our place, she says "OK" but you can bet she will whip it out of her luggage when she arrives. She keeps telling me what to do and how to do it All The Time, including how to treat DH and how to dress DD. It drives me crazy.

Thanks for your replies.

I'm going to go now. I still feel like a bad daughter for snapping at my Mum, but even worse for snapping at NicMac.

Sorry again Nic, thanks for your advice.

Yes, my mother came to visit once, from another country. Before we'd even got home from the airport I was wondering when she'd be leaving