Got myself into hot water yesterday, could use some advice on whether I was in the wrong.
DP (32F) works full-time in a well paid and demanding professional job. We agreed when our second child came along last year that I (36M) would give up my job and spent all my time looking after the kids. I do most of the household chores including all the cooking and laundry.
Yesterday DP offers to do a load of laundry, an offer I happily accept. Less than an hour later I find it hanging up to dry. Turns out DP has washed our clothes, together with the baby's reusable wipes (which were disgusting, he currently has diarrhoea), in a 30 minute cycle at 30C. I was fairly appalled, did my best to be nice about it, but did point out that they needed to be washed for longer and hotter otherwise it was a recipe for breeding bacteria. DP was v upset, told me I was undermining her and she was just trying to help, and that I'm unnecessarily pedantic about temperatures etc.
I ended up doing the whole load again because I'm don't like taking chances about that sort of thing. This didn't exactly lighten the mood. WIBU?