Saying that tongue in cheek somewhat.
I have been a breastfeeding, co-sleeping mumma for about 5 years. It's been very tiring at points and I never feel like I want to have sex.
Now the breastfeeding is calming down/ co-sleeping tailing off sex started to resume after periods of not having it. Recently we have had sex about once per week, a bit less when kids have been unwell etc.
Throughout these years I have felt bad for not meeting DH needs but i also feel resentful for him not meeting mine (his need being more sex, my need being recognition of my b'feeding/ co-sleeping journey).
He is unable to hug me without trying to shag me. So over the last few years, when I've needed a hug, I don't go to him for any physical comfort, for fear of being pounced on and sulked at for not reciprocating.
My body has been pulled, pawed and poked by 4 small children for so long that I admit I just want to be left alone. My hormones are a bit iffy too. The fact that my kids are now leaving me to sleep for lengths of time overnight is amazing and I want to be able to enjoy it but I also get tearful as it's the end of that chapter.
I don't know what the answer is but am I unreasonable for feeling this way? Sometimes I feel like a frigid freak.