To stop breastfeeding newborn ?

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I want to start by saying I know all babies are different .

I was unable to fed dc (18 months ) I was devastated . However I realize I was able to let DH feed him , we could go out unplanned as I just took a bottle and my MIL was able to take DC out for the afternoon as she had a bottle . DC1 seemed very contented.

Dc2 is two weeks old and I can feed her ( yay!) but she seems to feed constantly. Very 30 mins . If she isn’t feeding she is mostly crying and won’t be settled . DH / MIL can’t settle her . So I take her and feed her .

Getting out of the house seems almost impossible as the she is always being fed . We have been out 3 times straight after a feed and she has slept around 45 mins then woken up crying so we have had to power walk home so she can feed. This is hard as I don’t want to be at home with an 18 month old and newborn . I would love to be walking and getting toddler out. I’m scared I’ll be stuck inside as i need to be in to feed ( not sure how I’d feed out with toddler !)

Also DH is now pretty much doing bath and bed times with toddler as I’m always feeding. I’m Scared I’ll lose my bond with toddler ( he is now always shouting for daddy !)

The baby has wet and soiled nappies and midwife said she is a good weight ( so appears to be feeding well ) it is just so so different from DS1. Im worried that Brest milk isn’t satisfying her .

I also feel alone in parenting baby as DH can’t really help with baba.

Please help me ?
AIBU to consider giving up breastfeeding???

Baby is only two weeks old and I’m sure I’m exhausted .

Everyone told me bf was magical and I was devastated when I couldn’t bf ds1 but in retrospect it was far easier . Or is it just this time my baby is different to dc1?

@ADHDDDDDDDBOOM if this is reaaaaalllyyy true then I was used as a human dummy then. Both my kids fed every 45 minutes until 9 months.

Healthy babies that looked 1.5 at 10 months . Doctors told me to stop feeding but what can you do when the baby is crying for breast milk!

This is what has put me off bf my next baby coming soon.

So what's the solution? Dummies? And I'm not being snarky I'm generally asking for advice because if I can get a breastfed baby to feed every few hours I'll happily breastfeed the next one!

Your opinion is contrary to that of the breastfeeding consultants, supporters and health visitors (one of whom was also a BF consultant) who helped me.
It's worrying if you're questioning mothers over a 2 week old cluster feeding in the way OP describes. A quick Google shows that NHS advice and UNICEF, who you link, disagree with what you've said.

Just breastfeed wherever you happen to be! Much more convenient than bottles. Also, in a couple of weeks you can start expressing so DH and DM can help out and give you a break.

Doing 2 weeks is an achievement in itself. If you want to stop, stop. If you wanted to keep going you could combi feed or express some bottles to let you do things with toddler but I know this is a whole extra job in itself. I’m planning to express and combi feed instead of breast feeding for this reason but I know the extra sterilising will be just something else to do

I'm so glad to read this @Gladreel because I was despairing for breastfeeding in this country if that pp was giving official advice...! So glad to hear most advice-givers are giving more sensible advice

Bloody do it OP. There is so much more to motherhood than breastfeeding. A happy mum for a start! I combi fed both of mine too so that's where that view is coming from. You have a toddler to run round after and they need to get out and about. Good luck with it all, you are doing amazing 💐

You just quoted my job.

and all of the above use the unicef questions that I just posted the link to.

A breastfeeding baby who is never settled after a feed and feeds 48 times in 24 hours is a concern.

As I said, I would be asking more questions to be making a fuller assessment.

Thanks for the training though 😉

Dc2 is two weeks old and I can feed her ( yay!) but she seems to feed constantly. Very 30 mins . If she isn’t feeding she is mostly crying and won’t be settled

Please note. The OP did not mention cluster feeding.
She didn't say it was in the evening or afternoon.
She said it was constant. She described her as unsettled.

That would be a concern for any breastfeeding professional and would need further assessment.

Definitely, in my experience anyway! I guess there will be health visitors and even the odd breastfeeding supporter who will give incorrect advice, but thankfully I was correctly advised that it was completely normal! Hopefully anyone getting similar incorrect advice seek further opinions and quickly be reassured.

The first few weeks are so intense, feels like it'll go on forever!

You're very welcome, I hope any further official training will also be beneficial. 🙂

Aw bless. I will pass your wisdom onto my colleagues. 😁

...Okay then. I'll leave you to do that. Have fun, I guess.