Someone living with us

9 replies

Oatcookies · 16/07/2023 01:35

We originally agreed to this person living with us because parents passed away and we said the help with kids would be great. She had no kids or anything just my partner (nephew) she has been living with us 8 months now and not much help with kids. Like he wanted the occasional babysitter so we can go to the gym. But it’s not like that. I cook everyday of the week and I’ve been back full time for months I come home and cook for my kids and put them to bed. Make sure my husband has a cooked dinner when he’s home. I don’t mind doing that because my partner has a hard job. She is making comments on my parenting that is the problem

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ladydimitrescu · 16/07/2023 01:48

So you moved his aunt in, wanting her to help full time with your kids? Was she aware of this?
Just ask her to leave if you aren't happy??

lousyatchoosingnames · 16/07/2023 01:51

Time to ask her to leave ...

ApolloandDaphne · 16/07/2023 01:52

Was she aware you wanted her to help with the kids before she moved in? Did she agree to that up front? Is she belong out around the house? If it isn't working f for you now you probably need to tell her to find other accommodation and give her a deadline by which she needs to do so. Does she work and have money to allow her to rent? Does she pay you rent?

WandaWonder · 16/07/2023 02:16

As others have said did you go through this with her before she moved in or just assume she would?

Lacucuracha · 16/07/2023 06:05

Tell DH she needs to move out in 4 weeks.

Catsmere · 16/07/2023 06:17

"This person" being your husband's aunt - I take it you don't like her, OP? That wording seems odd.

But as pp have said, did you tell her up front you expected her to be more or less a live-in nanny?

MRex · 16/07/2023 06:18

It doesn't sound like you've tried to address this, and you can't go from zero to chucking her out. She's your partner's aunt, so ask her to stop criticising you in your own home, and ask her to babysit, see what happens? If she agreed to babysitting or other chores and isn't doing the agreed activities, then your partner needs to have the bigger discussion with her that living at your house was conditional on pitching in.

Babsexxx · 16/07/2023 06:19

8 months?!! Noooo time for her to go! There’s finding your feet then there’s taking the proverbial piss!

Totalwasteofpaper · 16/07/2023 06:21

YOUR parenting is the problem...?

Time for her to go. Tell your DH she was until end of the montj

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