Aibu to think that single parents don’t get invited out socially?

[MidsummerDream]

Couples invite other couples. Is it just me or do other people not get invited out?

I agree with you. Since my husband left me 5 years ago, I can count on one hand the numbers of time I have been invited.

Yep, I didn't realise quite how bad it was until I had a boyfriend for a couple of months snd suddenly 'we' were getting loads of invites 🙄

It's annoying.

Its true, I definitely feel I've been sidelined in a friendship that I formed with a school mum because someone I introduced them too has a husband and they can hang out as a foursome. It's me that now feels like an outsider and they now have the private jokes when we get together, like we used to.

Its called The Smug Married Club. A single female is deemed dangerous..... husbands can't be trusted. Repeat.
Welcome to social Siberia.
Solution... get yourself a girl gang and start having fun

I’m a single parent and I’ve never had a problem receiving invitations. You need to stop hanging out with small minded arseholes.

Thepeopleversuswork
That made me laugh👍

YANBU it is a thing

I haven't noticed this myself as a single parent! Still get plenty of invitations!

It's a well known phenomenon and why women fear being single.

As a pp said, you need to find other single women, or married women who are happy to socialise with single women.

Its interesting that men dont suffer this social exclusion though.

It is worse if you have SEN kids. Then you do feel like a society untouchable.

Well two weeks ago my single mate came round for dinner and bought pudding and had dinner with myself and DH.

I have had a friend whose child had less than desirable behaviour so I did invite her less but that was her irritating child, she just happened to be single.

Yup it’s a thing. My DH is away a lot. I tend to hang with single friends, divorcees often. Lots of fun though!

No, but then I’ve never had the kind of friends who only went out with their partners. So maybe that helps. I’ve found my friends are still keen to have nights out, and also I’m just invited round or out with their partners as well. You need to find friends who are not so weird.

DH and I rarely go out as a couple, we only have one couple as really good friends and then we each have our own friends who we socialise with so it matters not whether someone is single or not.

I’m married, but it has literally never occurred to me to invite people in couples — quite often because, even if people are in a couple, they’re not free together, or one works antisocial hours (two close friends have husbands who work in restaurants/ emergency medicine, hence odd hours, and one friend is a musician, who is often gigging at night), and because I have lots of single friends, some with children, some without. I just think ‘Who haven’t I seen lately?’ DH and I often socialise separately, too. We’re not joined at the hip.

Maybe not invited to 'couple' type things but I'd say my single friends have a much better social life than my married/ coupled up friends.

Yep. Still lots of coffee invites, but not dinner parties etc.