When he plan dates around his neighbourhood

[Honeybu]

4th date ( going for a walk then drink, it’s more likely going to rain) and is around his neighbourhood, I don’t is for sex. I think is just laziness and I’m getting bored of lack of effort and me driving more mile to meet him while he just have to walk and considering I have to pay childcare for the date. Just can’t be bothered now. I feel like saying I can’t as it will rain and to meet nearer to mine for my convenience

Surely taking turns is more than acceptable?

What did you do for the other three dates? Have they all been near his place and has he made any effort at all previously? It doesn't sound like he's going all out to impress you.

@SmirnoffIceIsNice exactly my thoughts he can’t be bothered to impress not that I’m just looking for that but feel at the start it tells a lot. 1st date a drink, 2 date a drink, 3rd date walk and drink and 4th same all. My time is expensive just before meeting him is costing me £50 childcare 😒 I should cancel and spend that time with my daughter

Have you taken it in turns to plan dates or are you expecting him to do it? What have you done to impress him?

If he is making all the suggestions and you aren't then I don't think there is anything wrong with them being in his neighbourhood. I wouldn't suggest a date in my dates neighbourhood, seems odd.

What happened when you suggested a date option elsewhere?

@Hillrunning For this 4th date which I have now cancelled I suggested meeting at a location central to both and convenient time as my daughter will be with a friend for atleast 4 hours. He says it better to meet later and then suggest near his so just walk 5 mins to meet me. He has got a car just choosing conveniently for him.

He's being selfish. Call his bluff and say you want to try a place local to you (suggest a nice pub close to your home)

If he makes excuses not to then he’s not willing to compromise - bin and move in

If this is his lack of effort now, imagine how it would be in a relationship.

Fling this one back!

You're paying £50 to go out with this man? That's crazy. He's just lazy and selfish.

You know I hope that he is not for you. Be honest and end things. You deserve better and there is nothing wrong with being single.