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AIBU?

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To be ok with how busy partner is

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Robrat · 15/07/2023 12:23

Partner and I have been together for two years. Relationship is great and we are very strong. However, he is very, very busy and lots of people tell me they couldn’t cope with a partner with so much going on and who can’t come to every social event. He works full time in a pretty demanding role and on top of that he is in the process of setting up his own business so that eventually he can work for himself. He also has a home renovation project ongoing in another country which requires him to have regular meetings with architects/builders and make lots of pretty big decisions. All this means that he doesn’t have much time. I also work a pretty demanding job which is quite draining and means I have little time/mental capacity to do a lot during the week. We do spend quality time together and he prioritises time with me but that does mean that we would mostly rather spend time together, just the two of us, than hang out with friends. We don’t have children and we have lots of friends who also don’t have children so like to hang out lots at the weekends. AIBU to be ok with this situation? Am I neglecting my friends and prioritising the relationship too much?

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Peacoffee · 15/07/2023 12:26

Why do you need to neglect your friends though? If he’s so busy surely there are lots of times you can arrange to see your friends and it doesn’t impact any time with your partner?

LemonsOnTheMelons · 15/07/2023 12:47

I couldn’t put up with that. And you won’t want to either if you ever plan on having kids.

Sux2buthen · 15/07/2023 12:48

Of course it's ok, it sounds pretty good to me. Not everybody needs to be joined at the hip

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