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Life is way too long! This s**t is just taking forever…

25 replies

UglyNameChange · 15/07/2023 12:22

…and I am so done!

I don’t understand how anyone can say AND MEAN, that life is short.
It just keeps on going and going and going, no end in sight.

OP posts:
oi0Y0io · 15/07/2023 12:25

What are you talking about?

DyslexicPoster · 15/07/2023 12:26

Bit distasteful if you die as a baby, child, teen or young adult

DyslexicPoster · 15/07/2023 12:26

My brother died at 6 months. It didn't drag for him

Sugarplumfury · 15/07/2023 12:27

You sound depressed?

DojaPhat · 15/07/2023 12:30

There's a way to express frustration at the seemingly never ending nature of the sheer tedium of life, be it in life admin, ferrying the kids around, cooking, cleaning, endless work meetings which could have easily been an e-mail etc etc. Or even to express that you're completely fed up with your current life and intend to grab a backpack chuck in whatever's on your bedside table and disappear to start a new life with a new identity but your thread is not the way.

UglyNameChange · 15/07/2023 12:37

Life is just awful, day after day.
No matter how hard I try, or just let go and stop trying, nothing changes.
It never gets better.
Pain every day.
The fear of having to still live for decades is terrifying.

but your thread is not the way.

I have no idea what you mean by this.
Why wouldn’t I be allowed to say how I feel?
It’s true.
This shit never seems to end.

OP posts:
LMNT · 15/07/2023 12:38

Do you have young kids?

I hated being the mother of a small kid. It was the most boring and relentless period of my life. It felt never ending.

LemonsOnTheMelons · 15/07/2023 12:39

Only you can change your life. No point wallowing.

Not happy? Put the effort in to make yourself happy.

oi0Y0io · 15/07/2023 12:39

Are you going to continue in this 'stream of consciousness' style?

Hihihihihihihihihi · 15/07/2023 12:41

LemonsOnTheMelons · 15/07/2023 12:39

Only you can change your life. No point wallowing.

Not happy? Put the effort in to make yourself happy.

This - take responsibility for improving your life, and even if you don't, don't be daft enough to suggest everyone else hates life

WeetabixTowels · 15/07/2023 12:41

What’s up OP?

RosaGallica · 15/07/2023 12:42

Perhaps you need to give more detail on your health issues op. It sounds like you have them.

cushioncovers · 15/07/2023 12:42

This is exactly how I felt when I had depression. The thought of having to live for decades with the same pain and struggles seemed too much to bear, I wished I could go to sleep and not wake up or wake up and be my grandmothers age so it would be nearly over, I truly felt it with every fibre of my body but it was one of the symptoms of depression. Please seek some support and help from your gp.

continentallentil · 15/07/2023 12:44

You are going to have to be more specific for people to be able to help

Highdaysandholidays1 · 15/07/2023 12:46

The OP is not commenting on anyone else's dead relatives, just that her own life feels endless and joyless and painful and so it just seems to go on and on without any respite in sight. I think it's fine to post that and a lot of people do feel like that as well, whether because they are depressed or because life has just given them too much to bear and the thought of not bearing it just seems easier. I have felt this OP. I don't feel it now. I take anti-depressants, meditate, and time has passed. I hope you can find a way through too.

DojaPhat · 15/07/2023 12:47

By the way, my post was not intended to police the way you post - it's merely to point out that the way your invites all manner of replies which though may not be intended to make you feel bad, would derail the thread if posters mention the premature death of a loved one.

WeetabixTowels · 15/07/2023 12:48

Yes the ‘wow how disrespectful to people who die young’ is pathetic and goady and overly making it about you. Honestly this place sometimes.

SerafinasGoose · 15/07/2023 12:48

Good Lord, this site. These are the words of someone who is struggling badly. If OP is feeling overwhelmed and/or has mental health issues, advice to 'change your life' isn't going to cut it. A bad case of depression can make even showering and washing your hair feel like a marathon sprint.

I'm sorry to those who have lost loved ones - so have I - but this is still no reason to respond sarcastically to someone who is bravely, and probably in desperation, looking to this site for help.

OP, please ignore the dismissive, disparaging responses. Please make an appointment with your GP today. You can receive help. Remember that 'this too shall pass', and it's possible to recover and be unhappy on the other side of poor mental health, whether this has a physical cause or not. You don't have to suffer alone with this. Interminable torment is not the way you have to live your life from here on out. Please believe this, which I know is difficult when you're in the middle of the mire, but it's true.

It is possible to recover. I'm living proof.

Flowers
SerafinasGoose · 15/07/2023 12:49

Sorry - the above was meant to say be HAPPY on the other side of poor mental health. Not the opposite!

JMSA · 15/07/2023 12:50

I'm sorry you feel this way Flowers It sounds miserable and relentless.

lemmein · 15/07/2023 12:57

WeetabixTowels · 15/07/2023 12:48

Yes the ‘wow how disrespectful to people who die young’ is pathetic and goady and overly making it about you. Honestly this place sometimes.

Yep!

Almahart · 15/07/2023 12:58

I'm so sorry you are feeling like this. It does sound like depression. I really would go to see your GP, you don't have to feel this way.

Cornishclio · 15/07/2023 12:59

Sorry to hear you are struggling. Is it down to circumstances? I think you should contact your GP or the Samaritans if you are feeling suicidal. If you are just feeling like life is a drag I think most of us have felt that at some point if you struggling with work, kids, partner or money etc etc. Usually it is temporary circumstances. Can you think back to a time you were last happy and pinpoint one change no matter how small you could make to make life more pleasant? Hugs and flowers anyway to be kind 💐

alpenguin · 15/07/2023 13:04

Sounds like you need drastic positive changes to life.

I have felt like this when I was younger (late 20s) and it was awful. I left my job, kicked my dull af boyfriend out and learned
to live again. It was necessary and not as hard as people think it will be.

It’s all going by so fast now and it’s like I’ve blinked and now I’m old and know whats
going to kill me and I just want life to slow down that wee bit so I can savour it more.

Are there changes you can make to your life, no matter how scary, that make you think you might enjoy it again?

cushioncovers · 15/07/2023 13:31

DyslexicPoster · 15/07/2023 12:26

My brother died at 6 months. It didn't drag for him

What an unhelpful comment. We all suffer loss it's not a competition. The op needs support.

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