Am I?

[peevedma]

Willing to accept that I am and aware that I'm probably just a bit worn out and tired from looking after a newborn.

DD is 4 weeks old, overall she's really good but has a lot of whingy moments throughout the day and sometimes will just not settle no matter what I do. I've been recovering from a section and had some really down days (mostly anxiety).

DH went back to work a couple of weeks ago and I did struggle to settle into the swing of things on my own. He gets home about 7 in the evening most nights and every other weekend he does a 100mile round trip to pick up his son from first marriage on Friday and Sunday leaving me with the baby.

DH is going out for dinner and beers tonight with some friends. Fine. But I haven't had more than an hour to myself since having DD and could really do with just a little bit of respite.

AIBU for being a bit peeved with DH for going out and leaving me holding the baby all day and night when I haven't had a moment to myself since birth?

Honestly I can see how you could do with sometime to yourself, there is nothing wrong with needing or wanting that. Have you told him how you feel?

Have you told him how you feel?

If you have and he's gone anyway then YANBU.

If you've gone along with it/said it's ok then YABU (unless your husband is known to have psychic abilities in which case YANBU).

How long did he have off after baby was born ?

Well it's not really unreasonable for either of you to have some time off. Hand him the baby tomorrow and take yourself to a cafe, out for lunch, to the cinema, in a bath, whatever.