I need your help in supporting my friend without committing social suicide.

[PrittStix]

Trying not to be outing so sorry if it’s vague.

something unpleasant has been going on at school and I have a friend who is generally quite… outspoken. So she’s not everyone cup of tea in the mums group but they still get on well with me.

Friend has recently created a drama related to what’s been going on, and she is DEFINITELY in the wrong. I have spoken to her but she is determined that she is right and I can’t tell her otherwise. She is generally a good person but very headstrong.

I don’t want to lose my friendship with her and feel we can be friends without agreeing about everything. I am willing to forget about it, but I am quite embarrassed about what’s happened tbh.

I also don’t want to be ostracised by the other mums purely by association. I get on well with many of these too. I’ve always kind of been in the middle.

wondering if it’s worth not really speaking to either sides over summer holidays and hoping it will all blow over during summer holidays, is this a good idea?

She’s wrong. She won’t admit it. She’s “outspoken” probably polite for she’s rude. She’s sounds unpleasant. I don’t know why you’d want to maintain a friendship like that.

Why do you think you’ll be ostracised by the other mums by association?

Just say to the other mums, I do love her, but I think she is wrong this time. I've told her this but she isn't listening. However, she is a great woman so let's not fall out over it.

she Really doesn’t look great coming out of this situation. A lot of the other mums are actively not speaking to/pissed off with her.

I agree she’s in the wrong.

but we’ve been friends since before we had kids.

I just don’t want to fall out with anyone, but feel pressured to boycott her basically

If I grey rock over summer holidays hoping it will blow over and reappear in September with the “been so busy” excuse will that do me any favours?

I think this is the best advice. And it's honest.