My mum is a functioning alcoholic and has been for many years. I won't go into too much detail but it's caused me a great deal of pain and frustration over the years. We are still close but our relationship has suffered and she stopped helping out with my dc a while ago.
Between the hours of 9-3 Mon-Fri she is sober as this is when she works. However after 3 on weekdays and all day at weekends she is likely to be drinking. I've learnt 'safe' times to call or visit and if she does happen to be drunk when I go then I leave. I have to do this to protect my own sanity.
However over the past few months and twice in the past fortnight ive had messages from people commenting on mums behaviour. Her friends, neighbours, people in our area. Usually expressing concern for her because shes rang them talking rubbish or seen them in the street and talked rubbish. I know it comes from a place of concern but i never know how to respond. Its like they expect me to be able to do something about it and i cant. Ive spoken to her many many times, nothing changes.
The fact that other people are now noticing her drinking and messaging me about it is upsetting and embarrassing. I havent told mum but maybe I should? How do I respond to them? Is it up to me to do something because frankly im at a loss.